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Your point is the exact right answer but not in the way you phrased it....if I never guess...suspect....surmise...or know that you are gay....then absolutely spot on....you are free to do your job and serve your country with the straightest of the straight.
The difference is the ones that want to rub it in our faces....poor choice of words....but you understand my meaning. Get on about your life and work....discretely....and everyone is happy....exactly as for a "straight" person. There are some aspects of a person's life I just do not care to know all about thank you. That goes for both straight and gay.