Please don't take this to harsh but do you or do you not want to be a pilot.
I kept a full time job whilst doing the correspondence course for the written ATPL exams. Took me 3 years due to doing a 50 - 60 hour week job on shift work. It can be done and the way to do it is take one chapter at a time and one progress test at a time. You then have to use all your holidays from work for the brush up courses and exams. 2 weeks for brush up and a week for exams in each module. That 6 weeks holiday in total. It may mean you spread this bit over 2 years.
Then you have the 25 hour CPL course and then the 50 hour IR course to complete. More holiday time to utilise.
Did my PPL in August 1999 and now have just short of 400 hours due to hour building in a Cessna that I bought a share into in 2000.
I have 9 hours IR training to do and the test. It's taken me the best part of 6 years to get to this point and hopefully will be finished in the next month. All done whilst keeping a full time long houred job doing shift work.
I used all my holidays from the last 6 years to gain my licence. Next year hope to go away for family holiday for the first time in many many years.
Why did I decide to keep the job and take so long I hear you ask. Well first of all I kept the £20,000 a year coming in whilst training and secondly, I work airside at Manchester and you know the saying the it's not what you know but who you know. I wasn't going to cut links with lots of people that I have had the luck of getting to know whilst working airside. It wont get me a job but might one day help me get an interview, then it's down to me to prove myself.
I have also got a friend who has done modular full time if you understand what I mean and it will of taken him about 18 months to complete training.
One step at a time
Best of luck everyone