Ignoring the specifics of this individual case for a moment, and taking the issue of gender out of it, the question above could be re-worded slightly thus:
Why should a...pilot not be entitled to the same quality of life...as for instance a bank clerk?
I suspect the answer to that is the same as the answer to these questions;
- Why can't train drivers, bus drivers and taxi drivers all work a regular 9-5 day like bank clerks?
- Why can't police officers expect to have bank holidays off work, like bank clerks do?
- Why do ambulance crews, firefighters, hospital staff, the AA, duty solicitors, air traffic controllers, etc etc all have to work on Christmas day while bank clerks get to spend the day at home?
- Why do supermarket check-out staff have to work until midnight or, in some stores, around the clock on a 24-hr basis while bank clerks don't?
The answer (and there is only one), is because being a {insert job here} isn't like being a bank clerk.
The reasons for this are various and colourful. Sometimes it's because the job requires a level of
responsibility above and beyond that of a 'normal' job. Sometimes it's because the conditions so ascribed are simply part and parcel of doing a particular job.
Either way, the point is that the
choice of whether to accept the job or not is there to be made right at the get-go and even, normally, beyond that; the option to change employer or even career isn't normally beyond the reach of many.
And there ends my general point.