Thanks for the many replies.
I'm quite happy that the captain is in charge and that he has the final say. All though on this flight there were reason for it being so tail heavy, which would have been explained to the captain if he had asked. The aircraft was a MD11 that was full of cargo pallets fwd which were not too heavy and full at the back of cgo and bags of which the cgo was really heavy.
The captain never spoke to me just told the airline rep that he did not want the trim so tail heavy and this was right on departure time.
The solution to this was to just off load the last 2 cgo units and that made him happy.
I do not try to load close to the limits but sometimes you can not avoid it. As it was a client airline of ours I did not make too much of fuss but I did make sure that the airline rep and our people knew that it was not my delay.
Rammel