And I know it's been said so many times before (but that doesn't make it not true) ...
You just ain't comparing apples with apples ... Military aviation is just soooo different (not necessarily better - but different), and I'm not going to get diverted into discriminating between various uniforms/capbadges.
But - if you have to ask, you prolly don't have the 110% commitment the mil requires ... sure the military don't have a monopoly in screwing people's personal lives, but they are very good at it!
And there's always the "blank cheque you hope is never cashed...."