Top tip. Don't trust someone NOT strapped into YOUR aircraft to keep a handle on range/bearing to mother. Let others back you up but always keep something in the tank for the wife and kids let alone your OJAR and aviation career. Also, especially in silent or emcon restricted operations, a margin of go-juice is worth holding back in case the ship isn't at the planned rv.
Final (food for) thought. Currency. How many hours are crews getting right now? Even if hours on deployment are better than ashore I bet they are down from the rates considered prudent in the 60s, 70s, 80s and even 90s. If it was a slip up under emcon silence, how much silent work really goes on these days compared with Cold War ops.