DFC, I agree with Vintage ATCO.
And with an attitude like yours you need to take lessons on what is reality in the real world.
You certainly won't get anywhere looking at all the laws and expecting everything to be exactly as it is written. It ain't, it never has been and it never will be.
But.............you might care to learn this little lesson. ATC is your mate, your friend in the sky. You don't have another - who knows as much who sees as much and gives as much. Never take them for granted and always let them help you. Remember, they help EVERYONE along the way - it seems you need some help anyway.