I've read the whole thread and I have to agree with Scotsman on this one.
SB22 - You don't have to be suitably qualified to have an opinion!
You do however need to have at least lived on a married patch to be able to comment. I fear you have a very fuzzy view on what life on a married patch is actually like. The talk of flower arranging and the like is simply insulting to any wife of an officer. We are not living in the 1960's anymore and the Stepford Wives mentality simply doesn't exist.
You may be well qualified to comment on being an officers' girlfriend or long distance relationships but not on being married in the RAF or living on a married patch.
These are the facts as I see them! (Opinion)
TF