You ask "Why So?" Well, this is because the "Partners Day" that I went to at Cranwell it was basically implied that if I wanted to stay with my boyfriend then I had to give up any notion of career that I may have had and follow him around. OK, so the people who made such "speech" were the sort that did have an "abundance of time" to host these things but now I can that those who have a career were out there doing it.
Thankyou though for appreciating that I am still young and the married patch would not suit me at this time- and as this post was originally asking advice from people in the same position as the original poster - ie starting out in the RAF and holding down a long term relationship in the early stages of military life. As I have just gone through these early stages I felt that I was in a good position to join this debate and give some advice.