Hmmph, I just wrote an long reply replete with all kinds of helpful advice that would not fail to revolutionise your flying, Maz, and then I was told I was not logged on and it was lost!
So it seems you'll never be enlightened.
Anyway, the basic points were:
*Pointed out that chasing an instrument not helpful mid-leg VFR. Getting really well in trim, then using the horizon to hold height & heading and referring to DI (& compass) and altimeter regularly to check you're still OK a better idea, I think. Worked for me, when I developed an unhealthy obsession with my altimeter and was more up and down than someone with PMT...
*Piquant observation that stress = screw-ups is a cruel trick on God's part.
*Said it's much easier to be ahead of your aircraft in good vis ( you can SEE what's coming!
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*Recommended the writing down of calls until you're used to it.
*General words of comfort & solidarity.