Alan M's last paragraph is exactly right. ATC are not in the business of admonishing pilots, their role is enhancing/ensuring flight safety. Consider it this way:
If you inadvertantly end-up somewhere you shouldn't be, then you will get far more respect and support if you talk to ATC (this includes D&D). The pilots who fall fowl of the "big stick" often do so because they have a problem recognising that their actions may have adversely affected a fellow pilot and consequently they try to cover their tracks.