Gramps
I think you put it very well. I can't think of any serious addition to yours. To make a dig at myself, I had a student once upon a time with the same problem. Suddenly he got better. Sometime later I found out that he had improved by watching me as we approached the flare. When my right hand twitched, it was time to flare.
Keep at it Teroc, it will come. As grandad said, it would help to know the type you fly and perhaps the base, so many have their own procedures that we shouldn't contradict.