Spiderman,
I know how you feel. For as long as I know I've wanted to be a pilot, however at the age of 16 I was shot down by the RAF because to be a pilot you need to have perfect colourvision and nearly perfect vision. I am both short-sighted and slightly colourblind. Obviously I was devestated. However I just put it aside as much as I could, concetrated on A levels and went to uni.
With my love of flying still very much alive, but with acceptance that I would never make a career of it I joined the uni gliding club and had lots of fun flying around. A year and a half ago one of the airline pilots who also glides told me that the civillian medical requirements were quite abit less then the RAF and that I might have a look.
A year and a half later I am now the proud owner of a class 1 medical. However it really wasn't an easy ride. I failed the colourvision tests at Gatwick. I took a different test in Germany and passed this. I then managed to get the CAA to accept a german medical. My dream can now finally start. When I failed the first colour test at Gatwick I just cannot describe how bad I felt. I had spent 6 years burying my desire to be a career pilot to have them re-kindled and to burn even brighter just to have them wiped out again. I sat outside the CAA building for 2 and half hours just not knowing what to do.
I have heard about people who learn the ishara plates to try and get a medical, this I just find absoloutly disgusting. I more then most people know how hard it is to not have a medical. This however NEVER justifies lying.
I really do feel for you. It is one of the most painful feelings to have all your hopes in the world to be destroyed. However there are REASONs for the rules that govern flying and most of them are there for a very good reason. 2close explains this well. It is not just your life that you are risking, it is the hundreds that you could potentially carry on your plane and the many hundreds on the ground that could be killed if you had a problem while on the flight deck.
Yes I know the rules are far from perfect, and alot of them seem stupidly strict/pointless but they are there to protect people in the best way they can.
In your case I think it is very safe to say that you have absolutly NO chance of joining the RAF as aircrew. For this I am very sorry and feel for you. At present I also think it is exremely unlikely that you will gain a class 1 medical either. All you can do is talk to the CAA and try and do the best you can. That is all any of us can do. Try your best and do everything you can do achieve your goal, but never forget that rules are usually there for a reason, and by all means question them but don't break them because you *think* you know better.
I wish you all the best and hope that one day you will achieve your dream.