Hello Bomber Harris,
The feedback you mention in a real airplane and the inertia/bumps/feelings you get is something I may never experience unless I take flying lesssons and I'm sure it helps enourmously in real-world flying.
By the way, I have recently found out that X-PLANE is considered by many real-life pilots to be superior in its flight-dynamics than Flight Simulator. So, while I see what you mean about MS's numbers in their FDE's for their aircraft, X-Plane has a totally different approach whereby they take the shape of the aircraft into account and then design how it would fly in different weather patterns etc... rather than just plugging in numbers like FS does.
Have you tried X-Plane?
John