Which 'civilian' refuellers has the RN operated forever, quite nicely?
The real RN used to operate buddy-buddy with the Vixen and refuel Mark 1 Buccs from Scimitars, plus the SHARs have always used a wide range of AAR assets in-theatre. Quite far forward in fact.
Do enlighten us as to precisely what you are actually referring? If you think hovering over a few drums of kerosene on the back of an oiler or landing at a FARP is the same as FW AAR, perhaps you might care to discuss the matter with your SHAR colleagues.