Skylark hit the nail on the head ...
As flyer ... I certainly admit to not being the best at ATC and radio procedures. I'm not terrible though and can certainly navigate as well if not better than many. I've predominantly flown PFA aircraft and been in the PFA for nearly 20 years. However, I've also flown under the asepsis of the CAA (seem to remember being trained the CAA way like most here), BGA, and BMAA ... so which "bit" of me is the not so good bit?
Drop the "them and us" and realise that "ALL" flyers (and ATC) have their good and bad moments. If you don't think that's you ... don't worry, it will be one day!!!
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