After 20 years I still don't know where I am looking, if someone asks me.
The other day I lowered the elevation of the runway, locally I should say, when planting it in winds gusting up to 50 kts. I think I was "unlucky" and had an energy loss right as I shifted focus from inside to outside, but I can't really explain what happened as I did not see anything unusual. I felt it coming though, in my but and my hand, as the side stick reached the aft stop, a few seconds before impact. As you gain experience your landings don't become smoother, you just raise the bar and the real crushers become less frequent. My believe is that do what works for you and the only real way to proficiency is continued exposure. Small tips and tricks could be helpful in the beginning of your career, for coarse calibration, then you eventually develope your own style.