Originally Posted by
Sukhoi_Enjoyer
No, she never said that. But she did say "if it was up to me, I'll like you to NOT do it, but I can't ever ask you to give up your career and have you unhappy for the rest of your life".
I understand your point and thank you for bringing it up, however, I won't doubt my or her loyalty, we have survived so many bad times together, we have been separated for months, we took many challenges together and the love never stopped. Everything can happen of course, but I could be surrounded by Victoria Secret's models and couldn't care less, I'm not like that.
Right before I started my flight training I was given a good piece of advice - don't get anyone pregnant and don't get married during training. In order to finish flight school in a realistic timescale you'll require full commitment and no distractions. ATPL theory, alone, has a high washout rate because of lack of commitment.
Without turning this into a dating forum, my blunt and honest advice is to break up and focus on your pilot career. By the sounds of it, your girlfriend has endured enough and she's even stated that she basically doesn't want you to do it. She can't ask you to give up the career pursuit knowing you'll be unhappy otherwise, and in turn don't waste her time because this pursuit might be a lengthy one and then she'll hold that against you for the rest of your life. I'm sorry if this sounds grim, but you need to be realistic. The flight training could roughly take 2 years if you start today and you will not walk into a flying job a week after finishing either. So you'll be job-hunting and depending on the European job market at the time you'll likely have to go and fly abroad. By then, your girlfriend will be going on 36 or 37... I think you can see where the problem lies. Some people would call it "either sh!t or get off the pot". This has nothing to do with Victoria's Secret models. You just need to be honest with yourself and your girlfriend about what you really want.