Reading over your issue I find multiple areas that could use a detailed airing involving both you and your instructors.
This considered I believe I can tell you that you will seldom find a single answer on a forum like this one that if implemented solves the issue.
I could sit here and go on and on addressing specific aspects of your problem but I doubt that would reveal any positive result.
What I have done here is include some data based on years of experience teaching instructors to instruct properly that if read and studied just might point you in a positive direction and give you some idea of what to expect from a flight instructor who is doing the job correctly.
By approaching the problem from this direction and mentally linking this data to your issues there is a chance the information might provide a positive result.
Anyway.........it's a shot across the bow that might address the meat involved with your problem.
Best of luck BTW. I hope you manage to get things under control.
Dudley Henriques
https://drive.google.com/file/d/1vDL...usp=drive_link