i think at the end of the day, its all good/well in theory... but the startle effect is very real. (learnt that from spin training where i was recovering well with 100% success. then we are cruising along and my instructor puts me into an unanticipated spin and i froze and failed to recover on my own... )
i'm not sure how you mitigate that apart from a bit more training in your type (until it becomes muscle memory).
or every 30 mins as part of clearoff rehearse the engine failure drill to keep you in anticipation (you are meant to kee[ scanning for forced landing spot. but i admit that i dont do this often)
at end of day though, the pilot brought the plane down safely and followed the golden rule which was to fly the plane foremost and walked away with her family without a scratch so that has got to be a win.