This discussion will always be there. Automation makes aviation safer, automation dependency makes less safe.
Well put, and I understand the catch. What would be an ideal balance is that aircrew at least aspire to better themselves, try the water, on every flight. Start with visual conditions at a calm airport. Next time try it when the ceiling is lower. Or at a busier airport with headings, altitude, speed instructions. If you're approaching overload, engage! Shying away from it will make you less ready the day you need it. And prone to suffer from illusions more easily. It's been done to death before, I know.