Valentina Tereshkova? Commissioned in the Soviet military upon selection for their military space programme.
Bezos and Branson? Both sub-orbital. Same for point three.
First pure civilian crew in a privately developed capsule aboard a privately developed rocket.
NASA is, of course, non-military and their contract was, and is, to pay for a private company to deliver cargo and astronauts to the ISS. SpaceX paid their own way.