Hot 'n' High
I feel for your family history and those of the three families you remember. At the end of the day one has to survive - and sacrifices has to be made - you know this better than I do, I’m privileged in comparison.
However, I believe it’s important to strive to compare with stronger and successful democracies and not corrupted undemocratic regimes like the Chinese one and more and more so the Hong Kong one. It’s a natural human instinct to look at those worse off and then feel ok, but it’s ultimately not a healthy one. Admire freedom and democracy - Hong Kong has fallen down the wrong path.