Originally Posted by
Saintsman
Beardy, what are you on about?
So you can't be nice to someone because they might not like it?, but similarly, they might not like the way you don't want to be treated. That seems to me to be still putting yourself centre stage...
You misunderstand, it is not necessarily about being 'nice'. What may be and acceptable to you may not be nor acceptable to the person that you are communicating with and vice versa. You have to be aware of what they consider acceptable behaviour. For example blasphemy may acceptable to an atheist but not a theist, Marriage to a 14 year old may not be acceptable to you, but is in Alabama, New Hampshire etc.. (subject to court orders) So an off the cuff remark concerning God or child brides could cause offence to some. The use of the 'N' word is acceptable in some social groups, but not in others There are many other examples. Your difficulty is determining which, that requires education, thought and understanding.
they might not like the way you don't want to be treated.
Good, glad you got the point. If you don't like being insulted then it's best not to insult somebody else, because they may not like it either. The idea is that you consider what you don't want to happen to you and make sure you don't make same thing happen to somebody else.