And the question is - would she have been treated the same way if she had been a male Sqn Cdr playing away from home? I suspect not.
That is the lot of many women in the military - a male who sees a lot of ladies is a top bloke/swordsman/player - a female who does it is a slag - not really fair treatment and this is the dinosaur attitude that needs to change.
A) What evidence have you got for the reason behind her dismissal? The only suggestion of sexual misconduct is in this thread by BVRAAM who is a UK wannabe with not the first idea about things and some ‘friend’ who at the very most might be UK mil. In other words, clueless.
B) Marital infidelity used to be career-limiting and to all intents career-ending for male officers in the UK forces. These days it is all about the effect on unit efficiency, a test which is gender-blind and subject to redress through the Service complaints process. My impression of the USAF is that it is still quite socially conservative. What evidence have you for your assertions about disparity of treatment in the contemporary services besides gender-stereotypical hand-waving ?