I hear what you're saying, I think - It's to commemorate those who fought the good fight rather than those who were just in the wrong place at the wrong time?
Trouble with that is - How do you differentiate between, for example, civilians who chose to stay in the cities and face the blitz in order to keep the country running or put out the fires vs conscripts who given any choice might not have been fighting at all? A victim of war is a victim of war.
For me - Remembrance is a personal thing. What it means to me is what it means to me. What it means to someone else is up to them and does not affect how i feel on the 11th day of the 11th month (or any other day for that matter) unless they are being openly disrespectful (which i don't think this is).
There are enough arguments going on in the world right now - I don't see the need for this one.
All the best!
OH