Although you are not too old, age isn't on your side and of course your primary concern must be for the family.
You need to nibble away at it.
1. Start down the PPL route with a Class Two medical. Your AME will know whether you qualify for a Class One. Obtain this by the time you obtain your PPL
DECISION TIME:
2. Head in the books with distant learning for the EASA exams
DECISION TIME:
3. CPL followed by FI part time keeping your well paid job or Potentially more risky CPL/IR + MCC route impacting finances & family stability.
4. One step at a time