You can either embrace the reality of the "new" world we live in, and be a part of the force that strives to change the currently accepted norms, or you can be a dinosaur that takes your current views to your grave
Unfortunately, whatever civilian ‘society’ may or may not accept as the norm, in the military world that soesn’t really work. The simple, and rigid, rank structure and the differentiation of commissioned and non-commissioned requires clear differentiation on the moral plane. The system cannot accept the potential of coercion through rank/status differentiation if the structure is to survive.
I have known a few officer colleagues who have crossed the line. It’s not a good thing hearing about a female cpl being seen emerging from her sqn ldr boss’s room in the Mess in the small hours, or a female fg off having sex in a toilet with a cpl, or a married wg cdr doing it with a female plt off in her room in the Mess.
Proud to be a dinosaur.