Many years’ ago I was PM and exactly as the OP scenario, I selected F1 instead of the F3 requested as we were on the ILS into Bodrum.
The A/THR increased thrust - quite a lot - and PF went around. Once gear was up and we were safe, Capt says ‘what happened?’, ‘ Sorry, I cocked up’ says I. ‘OK no problem’ says he, adding with a smile ‘don’t do it again !’
I don’t know why I moved the lever the wrong way - probably tired or distracted; I think cabin secure was very late and I was answering their call - but that is the only time before or since that I ever did that. Point is, we all make mistakes and it is how we manage and catch the mistakes that counts. Capt did exactly the right thing and was decent about my mistake
@ 763 at the risk of opening a big can of worms, the place to see your config in Airbus is on the E/WD config graphic, so the flap lever does not need to be in one’s peripheral vision