Sadly, in this world it does not always end with the funeral. In the late 1950s I was a 20 year old Photographic Interpreter Intelligence Officer based at Royal Air Force Episkopi but travelled frequently to the
PR squadron at Akrotiri. One day I was asked by the Episkopi Adjutant if I would put in a plea in mitigation on behalf of an airman who was being Court Martialed and charged with theft. Apparently his best friend had been killed in a road accident on his way to Akrotiri and the airman in question had stolen the takings of a collection for the family of the deceased. To add to the extraordinary circumstances he was a regular member at the Episkopi C of E church. However, when I sought out friends, colleagues etc of this airman to secure some positive comment nobody would say anything positive and frequently refused to say anything all. Very unpleasant.