There is an interesting comment on the subject of high gain and low gain pilots by John Farley in his book "A View From the Hover."
"Over-control is a common problem with learning to fly, almost regardless of the task but with experience we get better at relaxing, better at trimming, better at letting it fly itself for a bit and then coaxing it back to the desired state. In fact better at becoming a low gain (relaxed) pilot rather than being a high gain (overactive) one. Airplanes take time to respond and it is a waste of time to oscillate controls.”
I am not going to argue with such an eminent personage and it's the way I have always tried to do it.