What makes this particular set of victims any more deserving of your bleeding heart sympathy than any other set, apart from the fact that there was an American Warship commander at the heart of it all?
It's not the sympathy that is the question, It's the moral high ground, where American Democracy has planted its standard, being evacuated in the face of the demand for admissions of liability and guilt and the lack of apology, none of which were given. Although the USA did give Iran money as an ex-gratia payment, as if cash would absolve them of any further action.