Eh - it comes down to the golden rule - treat others as you would have them treat you.
Looking back a generation, when I started, some of the stuff was ****. Porn posters in offices, the law firm's hiring manager that my sister ended up with openly stating to her he only hired women who gave him a 'tingle in his dingle'. All excused as 'banter' or 'having a sense of humour'. If someone asks me politely to call them "he" and "Dave" when they appear to be a Samantha, I would hope I am considerate enough to call them by the name/ title they prefer