Flap 62.
In a past life I made more command decisions in one hour than the average BA captain makes in one year.
The best captains make you think you are making the decisions, the reality is they were there 5 minutes before. Not always for sure but I think you underestimate the roll.
The problem is the system not the pilots so let’s stop the infighting.
Anyway: FO Rosters anyone? What I can offer the OP is blindlines. 15 days a month roughly. Heavily weekend based and generally 2 day 6. But you will work less than TLH and trading can really help. You can submit a preference so you can avoid day trips if you wish. You can ask for a certain day off but weekends are hard to get.