aterpster: I don't know about you but I have never been raped. Probably because I am an ugly S.O.B., I don't know.
The point is it is all very well sitting there pontificating on what should or should not be done. Until it happens to you, you have no idea what sort of thought processes/emotions may drive your next actions.
So, until it happens to you and you have personal experience to use as a yardstick, I suggest you stop preaching the old "should have done this, should have done that" dogma.