My girlfriend feels ill when flying
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My girlfriend feels ill when flying
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My girlfriend has come flying with me about 5 times now, and every time she's felt ill, though managed to not throw up. She never has motion sickness otherwise (not even on rollercoasters!). She also believes it's not a manifestation of nerves/fear, as she's genuinely not scared, and wants to enjoy it.
My question is, have any of you been in a similar situation and/or have suggestions on how to solve her sickness?
My girlfriend has come flying with me about 5 times now, and every time she's felt ill, though managed to not throw up. She never has motion sickness otherwise (not even on rollercoasters!). She also believes it's not a manifestation of nerves/fear, as she's genuinely not scared, and wants to enjoy it.
My question is, have any of you been in a similar situation and/or have suggestions on how to solve her sickness?
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I went up with a very good aerobatic pilot and I have a stomach of steel 
He put this aerobatic machine through every manoeuvre you could think of.
By the time he gave me the controls to try the manoeuvres I felt as sick as a dog.
Even in a car its very rare the driver gets car sickness but common for passengers.
Maybe next time (depending on your experience ) let her fly the sortie from the right with your hands guiding things or better still pay for her to have a trial flight with an instructor with her flying from the left? My guess she will not feel ill if she is in control
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He put this aerobatic machine through every manoeuvre you could think of.
By the time he gave me the controls to try the manoeuvres I felt as sick as a dog.
Even in a car its very rare the driver gets car sickness but common for passengers.
Maybe next time (depending on your experience ) let her fly the sortie from the right with your hands guiding things or better still pay for her to have a trial flight with an instructor with her flying from the left? My guess she will not feel ill if she is in control
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As a former mariner, I'm not unfamiliar with that problem in others.
Without going into the physiological causes and effects, I'll just say -
The golden rule is...
GIVE THEM SOMETHING USEFUL TO DO.
Motion sickness, particularly seasickness and that suffered by aerobatics passengers, creates a feeling of hopelessness in the sufferer.
At its worst, they just want to curl up and die.
If the person is made to feel that his/her active participation is essential to the safe working of the craft, things will usually change for the better.
Having them regularly refer to the horizon (if available) and reporting any sightings (of whatever) also helps.
Even create a "crisis" if you need to.
The important thing is to get them ACTIVELY involved - they'll soon come to.
Uttering soothing, sympathetic words is the worst thing you can do (aside from leaving them to wallow in their own misery, of course).
Hope that's some help - it usually works for me, anyway.
Without going into the physiological causes and effects, I'll just say -
The golden rule is...
GIVE THEM SOMETHING USEFUL TO DO.
Motion sickness, particularly seasickness and that suffered by aerobatics passengers, creates a feeling of hopelessness in the sufferer.
At its worst, they just want to curl up and die.
If the person is made to feel that his/her active participation is essential to the safe working of the craft, things will usually change for the better.
Having them regularly refer to the horizon (if available) and reporting any sightings (of whatever) also helps.
Even create a "crisis" if you need to.
The important thing is to get them ACTIVELY involved - they'll soon come to.
Uttering soothing, sympathetic words is the worst thing you can do (aside from leaving them to wallow in their own misery, of course).
Hope that's some help - it usually works for me, anyway.
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Flying is a serious and addictive hobby. By now, you've invested a great deal of time, trouble, effort and money in it. You really need to get the most out of it and keep it up.
This girlfriend is clearly incompatible with flying, you should get a new one. I recommend the Bose A20.
This girlfriend is clearly incompatible with flying, you should get a new one. I recommend the Bose A20.
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Motion sickness arises because of a mismatch in the brain's interpretation of signals from the balance organ in the middle ear and from the eyes.
One thing that does help it is to focus the eyes on the horizon as that makes the signals they send correspond more closely to those from the middle ear. If in IMC, the attitude indicator (especially if it's a big PFD in a glass cockpit) can also be used for this.
The advice above about keeping busy also helps.
One thing that does help it is to focus the eyes on the horizon as that makes the signals they send correspond more closely to those from the middle ear. If in IMC, the attitude indicator (especially if it's a big PFD in a glass cockpit) can also be used for this.
The advice above about keeping busy also helps.
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I remember being on a base leg for EILT on a windy day, and looking at the girl beside me with a white face. I reached in the back emptied the flight case and she filled it for me on finals. Never the same flight case...
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I took my (now ex) girlfriend up once, next time I take anyone up I'll vet them very carefully as it was a complete nightmare. I hadn't passed my test so she was in the back. At only 5' tall she didn't find it cramped, but remarked the interior was a lot smaller than she was expecting.
She gave no indication she'd ever had any kind of motion sickness before - having bungee jumped, I thought this was well within her stride. How wrong I was.
Twenty minutes into the flight we were circling our hometown with occasional light turns. While the instructor and I were pointing out landmarks she said she felt ill.. . So we said we'd forget the sightseeing and just fly home. Too late.
The worried looking flight instructor produced a very crumpled, worn airline style sickbag that almost looked like a screwed up ball of paper. She passed it back to my girlfriend who made immediate use of it.
I felt sorry for her, but I'll never forget those sounds coming through the headset. I'll also never forget the look the instructor shared with me, (not my usual instructor either) a look of mutual repulsion.
We got back as quick as we could, but unfortunately had to go-around due to a slow microlight on final. This only contributed to my girlfriend's wincing and moaning.
In all, it was a deeply unpleasant experience for all involved but my girlfriend managed extremely well - no mess and no smells! That crumpled up old sickbag did it's job.
What did I learn? How important it is to enquire with intended passengers what the likelihood of them getting motion sickness is... Have they had it before etc...
It was such a beautiful day that day, also, it was the last time I ever flew that aircraft as I moved house.
I wish you luck overcoming this issue. Some fine advice above from the others.
She gave no indication she'd ever had any kind of motion sickness before - having bungee jumped, I thought this was well within her stride. How wrong I was.
Twenty minutes into the flight we were circling our hometown with occasional light turns. While the instructor and I were pointing out landmarks she said she felt ill.. . So we said we'd forget the sightseeing and just fly home. Too late.
The worried looking flight instructor produced a very crumpled, worn airline style sickbag that almost looked like a screwed up ball of paper. She passed it back to my girlfriend who made immediate use of it.
I felt sorry for her, but I'll never forget those sounds coming through the headset. I'll also never forget the look the instructor shared with me, (not my usual instructor either) a look of mutual repulsion.
We got back as quick as we could, but unfortunately had to go-around due to a slow microlight on final. This only contributed to my girlfriend's wincing and moaning.
In all, it was a deeply unpleasant experience for all involved but my girlfriend managed extremely well - no mess and no smells! That crumpled up old sickbag did it's job.
What did I learn? How important it is to enquire with intended passengers what the likelihood of them getting motion sickness is... Have they had it before etc...
It was such a beautiful day that day, also, it was the last time I ever flew that aircraft as I moved house.
I wish you luck overcoming this issue. Some fine advice above from the others.
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Your girlfriend is very brave if she has flown with you five times! It is not the same as roller coasters at all. Like others suggest on this thread, it is having nothing to do except suffer your maneuvers! If you intend to stick with her in the future, invest in HER flying lessons!
I had to take quells (for motion sickness) the first ten times I went up in a glider. They should be taken half an hour before flying, and have a sick bag in reach just in case.
As I was doing more and more of the flying I needed the pills less and less...and now may still get queasy if the other guy is doing most of the flying on a long cross country flight.
So next spring, book her in on a gliding course! and then some power lessons, and after that, the more she controls the aircraft instead of you, the happier she will be.
I had to take quells (for motion sickness) the first ten times I went up in a glider. They should be taken half an hour before flying, and have a sick bag in reach just in case.
As I was doing more and more of the flying I needed the pills less and less...and now may still get queasy if the other guy is doing most of the flying on a long cross country flight.
So next spring, book her in on a gliding course! and then some power lessons, and after that, the more she controls the aircraft instead of you, the happier she will be.
my other half isn't good on boats on the river, can't read in the car or on the train etc. Roller coasters are never going to feature on her list of achievements.
We find a good intake of crystallised ginger during the pre-flight activities and acupressure bands during the flight and she is fine. A front passenger seat and low instrument panel lets her see the view ahead and pointing out/looking out for landmarks keeps her mind off the motion.
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We find a good intake of crystallised ginger during the pre-flight activities and acupressure bands during the flight and she is fine. A front passenger seat and low instrument panel lets her see the view ahead and pointing out/looking out for landmarks keeps her mind off the motion.
Rans6.......
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Have you considered a new girlfriend? If you want to be a real pilot you'll have to get used to doing that. 
Used to have a a lot of trouble with sickness whenever in the sim - not to the point of throwing up, but in the early days I had to get out of there. Common problem it seems, and the instructors used to have a loop of elastic with a button sewn on. The button was positioned so that rested on the inside of the wrist. Seemed to do the job, and no meds involved. You could do worse than having the girlfriend give it a try.
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I agree with the suggestion to let your girlfriend fly the aircraft. That can help a lot. Many's the time I've had to say to a glider student on a turbulent soaring day: "Let me demonstrate something to you. I have control."
Another thing that helps is to make sure the lapstrap is really tight, so that she doesn't bounce around in the seat.
Another thing that helps is to make sure the lapstrap is really tight, so that she doesn't bounce around in the seat.
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Try whatever she is willing to let you try, but face it ultimately - not everybody is aircraft compatible. If it turns out she is unfit for flying, leave her on the ground.
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I can remember flying a client and his business associates to Newcastle in a Seneca Five twin IFR from its south west base.
The air was silky smooth, not a ripple and on an IFR flight plan, gentle and few turns turns and no messing around.
Soon after takeoff the one male passenger projectile vomited the contents of his stomach over every surface back to front and the whole flight was a succession of vomiting sounds albeit with less and less content.
We landed and within minutes the guy was back to normal and having cleaned himself up they set off for a meeting
Luckily for us as the plane stank the handling agents located a cleaning company who cleaned the aircraft interior.
On the return the guy got out of the car cheerful and smiling and everyone loaded.
Again soon after takeoff the retching sounds started and again continued for the whole flight although in silky smooth air.
This time there was little or no content in his stomach to vomit and we landed with him returning to normal soon after.
What mechanism causes something like that is a complete loss for me to understand ? Or why he was as happy as Larry in the 30 minute car trip to the meeting ?
Apart from the few degrees deck angle in the climb and descent the ride in the aircraft was probably smoother than the bumps enroute in the car. How much is psychological ??? God knows! and if psychological how much these pills and anti sickness gizmos are placebo effect?
My guess is psychological is more the driving force and i will explain why? If you go 30 storeys up a block of flats and walk onto a flat balcony with good secure guards around the balcony you will look out and admire and enjoy the view.
Now take away the secure barriers so you are standing on the edge of the balcony with nothing to stop you falling off to your death 30 storeys down and you would probably get intense vertigo and dizziness yet in both situations the balcony platform is stable. the only difference between the two is psychological and real barrier protecting you from falling off with the one and no barrier with the other
I am always amazed at the mindset of dare devil tight rope walkers who can walk between buildings with no safety strap attached or free climbers who climb with no safeguards.
I remember an amazing picture of a free climber a woman in only a bikini and a belt holding chalk powder hanging with one hand vertically over a rock overhang and a 300 foot drop to the rocks below. she casually placed the free hand to get chalk from the belt knowing that one slip was immediate death. Her mindset and familiarity and lack of fear had a lot to do with it which lead to her confidence in her ability
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The air was silky smooth, not a ripple and on an IFR flight plan, gentle and few turns turns and no messing around.
Soon after takeoff the one male passenger projectile vomited the contents of his stomach over every surface back to front and the whole flight was a succession of vomiting sounds albeit with less and less content.
We landed and within minutes the guy was back to normal and having cleaned himself up they set off for a meeting
Luckily for us as the plane stank the handling agents located a cleaning company who cleaned the aircraft interior.
On the return the guy got out of the car cheerful and smiling and everyone loaded.
Again soon after takeoff the retching sounds started and again continued for the whole flight although in silky smooth air.
This time there was little or no content in his stomach to vomit and we landed with him returning to normal soon after.
What mechanism causes something like that is a complete loss for me to understand ? Or why he was as happy as Larry in the 30 minute car trip to the meeting ?
Apart from the few degrees deck angle in the climb and descent the ride in the aircraft was probably smoother than the bumps enroute in the car. How much is psychological ??? God knows! and if psychological how much these pills and anti sickness gizmos are placebo effect?
My guess is psychological is more the driving force and i will explain why? If you go 30 storeys up a block of flats and walk onto a flat balcony with good secure guards around the balcony you will look out and admire and enjoy the view.
Now take away the secure barriers so you are standing on the edge of the balcony with nothing to stop you falling off to your death 30 storeys down and you would probably get intense vertigo and dizziness yet in both situations the balcony platform is stable. the only difference between the two is psychological and real barrier protecting you from falling off with the one and no barrier with the other
I am always amazed at the mindset of dare devil tight rope walkers who can walk between buildings with no safety strap attached or free climbers who climb with no safeguards.
I remember an amazing picture of a free climber a woman in only a bikini and a belt holding chalk powder hanging with one hand vertically over a rock overhang and a 300 foot drop to the rocks below. she casually placed the free hand to get chalk from the belt knowing that one slip was immediate death. Her mindset and familiarity and lack of fear had a lot to do with it which lead to her confidence in her ability
Pace
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But had you given her a vitamin pill and told her it was an anti nausea stugeron tablet it would probably have worked just as well.
Apart from ear diseases and a few other conditions most are in the mind
Pace
But had you given her a vitamin pill and told her it was an anti nausea stugeron tablet it would probably have worked just as well.
Apart from ear diseases and a few other conditions most are in the mind
Pace