Anyone You Know?
"A: In the majority of cases, the target of bullying is eliminated through forced resignation, unfair dismissal, or early or ill-health retirement whilst the bully is promoted. After a short interval of between two and 14 days, the bully selects another target and the cycle restarts. Sometimes another target is selected before the current target is eliminated.
Bully at Work – Interview with Tim Field by Dr. Sam Vaknin Business Correspondent – United Press International" ""Babiak found that these organizational shake-ups created a welcoming environment for the corporate killer. "The psychopath has no difficulty dealing with the consequences of rapid change; in fact, he or she thrives on it," Babiak claims. "Organizational chaos provides both the necessary stimulation for psychopathic thrill seeking and sufficient cover for psychopathic manipulation and abusive behavior." "Manipulative? Louis B. Mayer was said to be a better actor than any of the stars he employed at MGM, able to turn on the tears at will to evoke sympathy during salary negotiations with his actors. Callous? Henry Ford hired thugs to crush union organizers, deployed machine guns at his plants, and stockpiled tear gas. He cheated on his wife with his teenage personal assistant and then had the younger woman marry his chauffeur as a cover. Lacking empathy? Hotel magnate Leona Helmsley shouted profanities at and summarily fired hundreds of employees allegedly for trivialities, like a maid missing a piece of lint. Remorseless? Soon after Martin Davis ascended to the top position at Gulf & Western, a visitor asked why half the offices were empty on the top floor of the company's Manhattan skyscraper. "Those were my enemies," Davis said. "I got rid of them." Deceitful? Oil baron Armand Hammer laundered money to pay for Soviet espionage. Grandiosity? Thy name is Trump." Narcissists in Business and Government - NARCISSISTIC PERSONALITY DISORDER " |
.....a former so called team leader of mine.........:mad:
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I once knew an Army Officer who worked along these lines, but one day he targeted the wrong person. One of his soldiers (admitedly not the sharpest tool) was having some personal problems and the officer took full advantage; slowly screwing him from every angle and eventually had him discharged.
Well that's about when said paratrooper snapped. I have never seen anyone more scared for their life than when this discharged ex-paratrooper came for him, and I've seen some scared people! The bloke started by shooting the mirrors off the officers car as he sat in it in his driveway; and escalated to buring his boat and parts of his house (the police had been unable to apprehend him at this stage). It all finally ended in a chase that saw the terrified officer lock himself in his office, hiding under his desk, while the ex-soldier (carrying a Remmington 870) searched for him. Luckily for the officer the police SPG managed to apprehend the soldier before he found him. Needless to say, said officer is a changed man. That should also be a lesson to workplace bullies; sometimes you'll get away with it, but eventually someone will make you pay. |
The workplace bully is often a charasmatic person and uses this trait as a cover for their mis-deeds.
I worked with a woman ( who held a quasi-supervisory role) who was the quintessential workplace bully:
Yep. I actually held this lady in high regard until the following happend: She was involved in an event at work. She told me that she applied CPR to an individual and saved their life. This turned out to be bull****. Some one else did. Independant witnesses described her behaviour as "in a panic". The bully asked me to spread a rumour about another person who was peripheral to this incident. The behaviour of this person as described by the bully was outrageous. I later thought about this and realized that I had no direct knowledge of the event-only the bully's word for it, which I was increasingly doubting. What she had asked me to do was to spread stories about this person and ostracize them. I was also asked to encourage others not to deal with this person and make them feel uncomfortable until they left the company. This person was to be avoided, ignored and isolated, according to said bully. I refused to do this and, naturally, wound up on her **** list. She later applied for a job at an organisation where I subsequently worked. Her application was unsuccessful :ok: |
Geez Anthill. Thats a remarkably close description of the following individual.
When confronted regarding the conniving, deceitful, untruthful, harassing and cowardly behaviour that had been his modus operandi, and given an opportunity to correct his behaviour, the gutless wonder chose to hand in his resignation. Furthermore, tried to paint himself as the victim. Did me a favour in the long run. Good riddance. D:yuk: |
Tim Field website
Tim Fields website is an excellent resource in helping tackle and win against the bullies. Although not easy and often it is a legal win after leaving the company.
Bully OnLine: Tim Field shares his unique insight into workplace bullying, a cause of stress and ill health and the basis of harassment, discrimination, prejudice, abuse and violence I have posted this link before and as Sunfish created a new thread it is worth reposting for anybody needing help. |
That's why the strangest people end up in supervisory / decision making positions ..and the top blokes with real people skills never do..
..and subsequently the company doesn't ever quite reach the levels it could/should |
Couple of great books by Robert Sutton
"Good Boss, Bad boss" - talks about how to deal with the corporate psychopath, both as boss and employee "The no ass hole rule" - great philosophy |
book on bullying
I came across another aussie authored book recently:
Preventing Workplace Bullying by Carlo Caponecchia & Anne Wyatt, ISBN 9781742373461 - QBD The Bookshop SB |
Sunfish
Mines been dealt with FWA.
A payout. Dosesn,t take away their guilt, they call it a redundancy.???:mad: Gave up my life and a marriage. No one wins except the CEO. Regards Multi |
A wise sergeant once told me something that I live by, and that is "the toes that you tread on today may very well be attached to the butt that you have to kiss tomorrow" Its a small world out there
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Top post/thread Sunfish and a topic that I believe is endemic across the industry. It is also a subject that has affected me personally/financially/professionally and I'm still searching for the light at the end of the tunnel....at least I haven't succumb to the serious risk of irretrievable chronic depression. So be warned those who are contemplating this mob: http://www.pprune.org/dg-p-general-a...2012-t-cs.html
This disease, I believe, has far more serious implications if allowed to go unchecked within the aviation industry. This is without a doubt one reason why we're seeing lower standards of professionalism across all sectors of the industry. The next pilot shortage will be in the area of experienced/skilled professionals as that brethren decide it's "all to hard" and elect to gracefully exit the industry. The bully boys being bred in middle and upper airline management are trying to enforce these 'mentors of the industry' to try an accept a lowering of personal safety and flight standards to reduce costs. Some middle level companies that I know of give out bonuses to middle mangement for cost savings to the training budget. The following is a quote from Angelorange, which I've also posted in this thread: http://www.pprune.org/dg-p-reporting...2011-a-20.html “Angelorange” said: “…We know there were many factors aggravating the situation but responsibility lies with the pilots, the airline, the manufacturer, the training system and the regulators. How much will be judged to have the greater share will depend on honesty, openness and sadly politics. I hope we can learn from the mistakes made and ensure a safer flying future by improving pilot selection, training, and mentoring, developing CRM/SMS so it is of real value and not a box ticking , white-wash exercise. However the instances of this bully boy/narcissistic philosophy isn't limited to certain operators, it is also (almost) gleefully embraced as 'ops normal' by our very own regulator. You only need scroll through some of the 'Show Cause' AAT hearings or Coroner reports to see the workings of the biggest 'kid on the block!' |
Unfortunatley this seems to be an epidemic across all industries.
My better half and i are astounded with all the lip service given to trying to stamp out bullying, that when it does happen you are totally alone with only one option and that is to resign. Our brief experience as follows (but in the boating industry) the said individual ( the best name i can think to call him in public) was unbelievably appointed by a group of directors although it was wel known to all including them his bullying history, poor work ethic and usless managment skills they decided to continue against everyones warnings ( you really can not find one person in this area that has any thing but bad words to say about him), any way the Managing Director resigned his position over it and reverted to being non managing director, and you guessed it, another bully steps up from the director ranks to support the appointment. Long story shortend my wife applys for and appointed the office manager and does amazing things to turn the business in the right direction said bully rewards her with dumping his work so he can focus on his outside non work related activitys, and then the swearing and belittleing start in front of other employees and also to other employees. despite many complaints to the directors from all levels of staff, nothing was done. After numerous tear filled nights and stress at home i sent my wife to the doctor to have it offically recorded ( not for compansation) we then decided to make more formally to all the directors her complaint also on behalf of all the staff, Bully MD conducts offical investigation specific staff are happy to bear formal witness, despite all this the bully! not guilty everones imagination at work, guess what happened to 2 witness sorry no more work for you, for us and many others we just walk away, for the business it lost the majority of experienced personell the rest are counting the days and have planned their departure leaving a skeleton of a company, now trading very poorly and in this economy wont be able to reserect itself, the staff that have departed are happy now as is my wife. Guess what the bully is doing!, well really from day 1 he was only using them and has himself set up for a more political postion and will totaly shaft the company, at least they were warned. What would we do in the future? walk away at the first sign of trouble, that is all you can do about it and keep you sanity and health. |
I have been out of the loop with this mob for the last couple of years, anyone know if they wanna be military neo nazis are still stirring the pot? :ugh:
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I was in the middle of a situation at my former employer (non-aviation industry, but a major company) that showed me the truth of how companies handle these situations. Hint, HR is for the company, not the employees.
We had a co-worker promoted to manager of our team. Another co-worker was a mate of his for some time and according to him had covered up for a number of this new managers "romantic indiscretions" in the past. I had no direct knowledge of this, but seeing his behaviour when on the drink it seemed plausible, he went for anything female like a bull at a gate despite being in a relationship. The story I was told was one time the mate was non the wiser that he was being used as an alibi, and innocently said "he's not here" when the managers wife called one time. She caught on which then went into divorce proceedings. The manager then blamed this on my co-worker, believing he was dobbed in for some reason (despite the co-worker having no motivation to do so nor any evidence that this was the case). From there things went down hill. The manager pulled his overtime, starting taking projects from him, hired a new worker with the specific skills to replace the targeted co-worker. When ordered to train someone else on his work, he tried but the trainee was thrown in too early and when the co-worker helped save the day he was given a dressing down for getting involved. The manager was caught trying to prove the co-worker was not working his claimed hours by checking his login times. At annual review he was suddenly dropped from several years of second top level to an unsatisfactory level. The co-worker clearly knew he was getting retribution for the perceived grievance so he escalated it. Here is where it went wrong, HR did not get involved, but the next level of management did. All they did was back up the new manager. I am not really sure why it was handled this way, but there was some claims of vested interest in this middle manager getting involved. With little progress and more and more aggression on both sides (both the co-worker and new manager were hot heads) things escalated up the chain. By the time HR did get involved their position was to cover up for management and not actually resolve anything. Their stupid solution was to slightly change reporting lines into a non-working arrangement. There was nothing done to address the bullying by the manager, they just tried to find ways to justify managements positions in the matter or ways to shunt the worker to another team. By this point the co-worker was a wreck - he was stressed, angry, upset that his real work effort was being overridden by this and on the verge of a breakdown. I knew him as a pretty tough nut, but I saw this actually reduce him to tears. Myself and two co-workers had witnessed most of this from the sidelines, and admittedly had most of the information from the co-worker, but knew the manager enough to know who was telling the truth. We went to a separate part of HR together to try and back him up and get it resolved - again nothing happened. Eventually the guy went on stress leave under workcover and consulted a lawyer. They were so confident in the bullying case they were prepared to go pro-bono, and that was before the worker was accidentally copied on an email that showed 4 levels of management and HR collaborating in an illegal performance management exercise about him (I was there when I saw the manager who sent it desperately trying to recall the email). Once they found out he was consulting a lawyer they pulled his company access, I am talking in minutes here, and put him on some strange sick leave setup (they knew firing him at this point was legal suicide). In the end the only resolution was for him to leave, but that was also part of his legal support getting a 6 figure settlement for him. The manager stayed on and one by one isolated his entire team with the same psychotic crap - tantrums, abuse, openly blaming failures on specific team members to other managers. Even the one guy who backed him up through the original bullying issue ended up turning his back and seeing the truth eventually. I later got a better offer and openly told some of the managers involved that the companies handling of the bullying issue reinforced my decision to leave. The whole episode taught me a few things: 1. Document everything, and keep it away from work. 2. Don't forget HR work for the company - their interest is to ensure the company does not get in trouble, not that everyone is happy. 3. Legal advice can be invaluable - it can put a lot of power in your corner if necessary, but don't wave it as a threat, that just forces them to react. 4. While it may feel wrong , walking away may give you your life back. 5. Your work record means nothing under a vindictive asshat. |
SgtBundy very good account. Your 5 points are essential advice. My situation played out very similarly including emails.
Tim Fields site has more warnings on taking complaints to HR. |
Agree 100% with Sgt. Bundy.
Additional tips: - Keep copies, memory sticks, etc. In a safe place off site. Give it to a friend to keep for you. Employers have arranged warrants and searches before now. Do this on a regular basis, you never know when your turn will come. - Do not EVER use your work computer for anything but work. Keep your private correspondance on a home machine and keep a backup offsite. Most especially, don't Google "Unfair dismissal", etc. on your work computer. - In conversations with other employees don't EVER bitch about a manager. Always be the loyal guy taking the company line/following the company spin as far as possible. If you must criticise, use "HR speak" = "gaps". "opportunities for improvement". etc. - If you are a participant in management, keep a daily workbook. I used an A4 Spirax. It is an aide memoir and I jotted meetings details outcomes conversations and important stuff as it happened. SIgn and date each page and note the time of the discussion/decision/meeting. When push comes to shove, this is your "log book". They are removed when full and taken home. I have some Thirty of mine in storage. About once a year I get a telephone call "Do you remember..XXX....?" out comes the relevant book. Q: How did I learn this? A: Painfully. |
Description of the serial bully from Tim Field's site
The serial bully:
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Sneaky sneaky
And remember this:
1. Mobile phones, particularly new technology such as Ipad/Iphones record everything. Emails, websites, text messages, time, dates, words, locations, even when you have put the phone on charge. They can almost decipher when you last farted. 2. Almost the same goes for your work emails with basic internal technolgy, key logger programs and so on. 3. Wireless. Most wireless networks connect to your workplace server, hence point number 1 above also applies to wireless. Think of that next time you try to outwit HR or management by bringing your own laptop to work so you can watch porn on the night shift or send emails from your own Yahoo account to your mates telling them that your boss takes it on the chin! Yes, they can ping you through wireless also. Now for a great read try this book - 'The Sociopath Next Door' by Martha Stout. She even has a PHD so CASA staff should enjoy that fact alone! A very interesting, sometimes funny, yet mostly accurate description of airline management, regulatory bodies, politicians and the like. |
Anyone you know? Would that qualify? Bearing that in mind, does that person meet a selection of the aforementioned criteria I've cherry picked below?
is mean, stingy, and financially untrustworthy |
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