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Old 20th Jun 2015, 07:01
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Apologies ...

Not sure how any of us might react to a sudden unexpected death sentence.

Its happened to me ... non smoker, windsurfer, bike rider, light aeroplane flyer ... etc. But shortness of breath and chest pains took me to my local hospital last week. Diagnosis: terminal inoperable lung cancer.

So this post is not to seek sympathy but to say sorry to all those PPRuNers who have been irritated or annoyed by my banging on about the EU, Muslims, immigration, etc.
Carrying all that anger inside has not helped me, and from now, perhaps a little late I will drop all that corrosive stuff.

I don't know how long I have left to live, but this sure makes me aware of what is really important. If any of you have kids, teenagers, give them all the love you have ... when I die it's not going to make much difference but those kids are the future.

Good luck to all of you.
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Old 20th Jun 2015, 07:12
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Must come as a hell of a shock. Sorry to hear your news.

In my thoughts and don't forget there are always people on here for support.
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Old 20th Jun 2015, 07:14
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vee-tail-1, that's brought things into perspective with a bang.

This forum may not be much more than a harmless way to entertain ourselves and others, and to enjoy the odd kind of anonymous camaraderie that the internet offers in these forums, but we are still all real flesh and blood behind the nicknames. We have lives, loves and families, and we're all aware of our own mortality.

But when that mortality is so bluntly presented, as it certainly has been to you, and is to us to a lesser extent by proxy, the artifice of the internet falls away, and we are all just people getting on with our lives in the face of that mortality.

So without knowing you personally, I'm really sorry to hear that news. There's no point in talking about your joining some happy forum in the sky etc. That doesn't mean anything. I'm sorry to hear that your time is drawing to a close sooner rather than later.

I hope you have some love around you to help you through, and that in your life you have experienced not just happiness, but the best that our life has to offer - the fulfilment and joy of love.

Best wishes, vee-tail.
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Old 20th Jun 2015, 07:19
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Wow, words almost fail me vee-tail. Sounds like you have come to acceptance phase quite quickly. May you find peace in the embrace of family, friends, and of course, your extended family here as well. And I guess you are right. When it comes down to this, nothing else does matter.
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Old 20th Jun 2015, 07:39
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vee-tail-1 ... I know how you feel .... Heartfelt commiserations. Having led a life of Low Fat milk, cut the fat off the beef etc.etc. i.e. not really being fanatical about anything, but moderation in all things diet wise, I was recently diagnosed with a bowel cancer, been through the radio/chemo thing and now face the operation to cut the residue out, but it's so close to the bottom - to coin a phrase - that rejoining is not an option, so I face the prospect of "the bag" for the rest of my life.

Still, I guess it's better than the alternative, and no one will be able to accurately call me an Asshole !! ( I won't have one )
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Old 20th Jun 2015, 07:40
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Very brave of you to post that news here vee-tail.But just remember,you're among friends who will listen anytime you feel the need to share anything.

All the best.
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Old 20th Jun 2015, 08:51
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Bummer dude....One never knows what to say....
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Old 20th Jun 2015, 08:58
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I am sorry to hear your news and you have my best wishes for whatever period lies ahead for you.

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Old 20th Jun 2015, 08:58
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Vee tail, very sorry to read your sad and dignified post this morning.
I wish you the best.


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Old 20th Jun 2015, 09:06
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Best wishes to you, too, vee-tail.

There's no simple answer when that diagnosis comes, and a different system takes over. McMillan are nothing short of bloomin' marvellous, in my experience (but I got an extension). You start to find out who your friends are.

The cruise was varied and interesting; short final may be a bit tricky. The landing will be something else.
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Old 20th Jun 2015, 09:20
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Whilst we disagree, significantly, on some if not all of your posts, these are irrelevant when it comes to health and personal circumstances.

In addition to which, I was fortunate in that my own recent encounter with mortality was not a brain tumour, as was the initial diagnosis, but a lesser condition now in the process of being treated.

In my less than humble opinion therefore...., may I suggest you indulge with the many aspects of life you may have long thought "Hmmm?. always fancied a crack at that / seeing this / visiting there" and do so.

There is no need whatsoever to apologise either....we are all susceptible to the vagaries of life, despite what we may think.

I do wish you as much happiness as you can find, so basically, stick two fingers up to the world and the trivia some are obsessed with.....

I would also, being me, take great delight in causing as much irritation as possible to the many and varied inane forms of authority and jobsworths the UK is noted for.....just a thought to keep you occupied....

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Old 20th Jun 2015, 09:28
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VT1 - No surrender, go live your life. Good luck fella
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Old 20th Jun 2015, 09:30
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vee-tail others have said it all for me.
Hopefully when the end does come, as it does to us all eventually, may it be gentle.
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Old 20th Jun 2015, 09:35
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Sorry to hear this news, the same diagnosis was given to one of my close friends a few years ago. We'd flown together for years and I remember being deeply shocked when he told me of his lung cancer.

He was told he had around a year to live, and we set out to have a good year. It turned out that, with a combination of radiotherapy and chemotherapy, he had three good years, with a pretty good quality of life.

He died peacefully, after a short period when his illness got very severe and after he'd chose not to have another round of chemo but to call it a day. However, three months before he died we were still going to the pub for a chat and he was pretty well apart from being a bit short of breath.

No doubt you've had advice, but I cannot praise the Macmillan nurses and the terminal care team that looked after him highly enough. They made his last weeks comfortable and helped us, his friends and family, to understand and accept the inevitable.
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Old 20th Jun 2015, 09:48
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Sad news

vee-tail-1,

We have had our differences, but I am very sorry to hear your sad news.

I do hope that you will be able to spend what time you have with loving and caring family and friends.

I hope you find your better place.

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Old 20th Jun 2015, 09:57
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vee-tail-1; Really hard to think of anything to say that may help, so I`ll just go along with what Cyber Bob said!
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Old 20th Jun 2015, 10:11
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I guess that all us PPruners can do in the days you face ahead, is to offer you our continuing comradeship and the chance to both, discuss and listen and maybe even learn, sometimes.
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Old 20th Jun 2015, 10:21
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Best wishes VT1. Also sorry to hear from ExSp33db1rd, one of the few Ppruners I actually know. Good luck and best wishes to you too mate.
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Old 20th Jun 2015, 11:12
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Wow! thanks for that ... now I really know a better world is possible.

On a practical note my cancer could have been sorted if discovered two years earlier.

If you have a pain in the chest get an x-ray soonest ... don't let the medics tell you it's just a virus. Or more particularly don't think 'It can't happen to me'
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Old 20th Jun 2015, 12:54
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Originally Posted by ExSp33db1rd View Post
vee-tail-1 ... I know how you feel .... Heartfelt commiserations. Having led a life of Low Fat milk, cut the fat off the beef etc.etc. i.e. not really being fanatical about anything, but moderation in all things diet wise, I was recently diagnosed with a bowel cancer, been through the radio/chemo thing and now face the operation to cut the residue out, but it's so close to the bottom - to coin a phrase - that rejoining is not an option, so I face the prospect of "the bag" for the rest of my life.

Still, I guess it's better than the alternative, and no one will be able to accurately call me an Asshole !! ( I won't have one )
ExSp33db1rd, one of my best buddy got the "bag" at 50.

He his 54 now and still my best tennis player partner.
It restricted none of his activities. Diving wreck, para sailing, motobike, karaté included. Well they probably make sure not to kick his bag during his karate session
For an hyperactive kind of guy that is something to say. Like you, he just joke about it!

Vee-tail-1 that's [email protected]!

Hard reminder for everybody that there is one certainty in life, mortality!
No white flag though... Live it to the fullest as much as your sickness can let you do it. You can do wayyyy more in your last few years than a lot of people during their entire life!
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