What about flight attendants, they should stay home too then?
They are often flying more than we are, those poor kids!!!

As long as they are loved and supported theill be fine, you don't have to hover over them 24/7...

Skippers? http://www.prlog.org/10418597-captain-edward-smith.jpg

3FL Woe

But you have to remember that most of STC's are bi-polar. So naturally they appear fine one day and crazy fanatic's the next.

CZ

Don't pluralize using an apostrophe! Who started that sh!t?

I've read an apostrophe can be useful.

It appears it can delineate between people who know their ****, and those other poor unfortunates who know they're ****.

Now back to thread, the following link is reminiscent of cx when I joined

I'm not sure with some of the comments on here that we've progressed much!

Thanks Silberfuchs, I stand corrected.

The Cav:cool:

Obviously a little behind the times
The modern wife is Filipina
Otherwise the sentiments remain unchanged

Another example of how PPRuNe gets hijacked by a pack of idiots...
 

Yup, I'm sure that all women at home with their kids 24/7 are always fantastic mothers by default. And surely all men, when out 'hunting and gathering', have their kid's best interests at heart...

Cue male pilot with chip on his shoulder bitching about female pilots and the decline of the traditional family while getting pissed in Wan Chai...

Give me a freakin' break. :ugh:

So riddle me this Batman, why is it not OK for a man to have an opinion that women should be at home looking after the children.
We live in a world where children are not being raised and nurtured correctly because women are abrograting their prime responsibility.

One of the mums at school was shocked and surprised when the only way her brat would respond was when the maid asked him to do it...in Tagalog.

I think it all depends on what set up the family has, if the father is a stay at home dad then there should be no problem but if both parents work full time jobs, say one works a 9 to 5 job and the other is a pilot, then I think it is a problem. There are too many kids being raised by helpers in Hong Kong and it doesn't help the parents as they are not as close to their children and it doesn't help the children as they don't see their parents enough. This also applies to dads, although mums do have more of a maternal instinct.

Stereotypes
 

Yes, Capt Undies, so many stereotypes here. A friend's partner was shocked at school when she was asked to tell her daughter's mother to come in as they had some issue to discuss. She was of course the mother but was assumed to be the helper!

I'm confused. If the woman is working, who is cleaning the kitchen?

Oh yes! Playing the equality card.

Until a man can give birth to a child, we ain't equal.

Yamma, don't mean to offend but - go F yourself :)

Etopsmonkey, Owen Meany, Yamma

can you offer any hard evidence that children (co-)raised by other family members than the mother,boarding school,helper, tutors, the family dog, are worse off than those brought up by a housewife-mum? Ever spend a thought about other influential factors, e.g. role models, stimulation, higher income equals better schools, international environment, independence, stronger bonds to friends/other family members, more challenging resulting in more resilient character, better network of influential/powerful/interesting friends etc etc etc?

No, I do not want to hear the really really gripping story of the daughter of a neighbours friend, I want to see some scientific EVIDENCE. Social study, by a neutral university/academic institution, NOT that great paper back you found online.

Spend a moment of reflection ( maybe while on a hunting break in your cave): could your one-dimensional, simplified and un-scientific way of looking at things evolve because YOU were brought up lacking any of the stimulating factors mentioned above?

This is the result of a 5 minute online search.

You probably could find material supporting your case ( albeit from far less reputable sources/publishing houses), but the VAST majority of studies does not.

Working Moms: The Kids Are All Right

Working mothers do no harm to their young children, research finds | Life and style | The Guardian

BBC News - Do working mums make healthy children?

The science of being a working mother: The M.D. - Los Angeles Times

Famous Boarding School Alumni - Boarding School Review


PS Owen Meany, it is impossible not to note the irony of your chosen alter ego, it's creator ( which by the way you will find in the "famous boarding school alumni list" ), the bio of the novel character and the personal story of John Irving. You gotta be kidding..

You left-wing, women's lib, Obama lovers make me laugh...

Of course, the social ills of our society and the breakdown of the nuclear family has nothing to do with working parents, single parents, uninterested parents, etc. Of course, you can be a great career woman and a great mum all at the same time. Never mind the fact that you can't be in two places at once. A stand-in helper is a fine substitute for a parent. How could anyone think otherwise?

Not just mums, but dads too, are increasingly vacant from the home. Pressures from work and finances driven by gluttonous consumerism have eroded the most important facet of rearing children - TIME. Show me where you spend the majority of your time, and I'll show you what is most important in your life. It really is that simple.

None of this requires scientific research. It's called common sense.

Cxorcist, with all due respect, your reply makes no (common) sense.

A female pilot can indeed spend lots of time with her kid(s), just not in the classical way.

Another very important factor that gets overlooked is what happens if a marriage/partnership ends in a divorce ( as in 30-50 % of all marriages).

If the wife gave up her career, this will in most cases result in significant reduced living standards, and of course this WILL affect the kids,too. If the mother maintained her career this could be avoided, to the BENEFIT of the kids.
Additionally two working parents are an insurance in case the husband gets unemployed or sick, another important aspect imho.

I am European, your comments on your political situation are non-sequitor to me. It is impossible for me to understand the appeal of the Tea-Party, assault rifles under the bed, fighting a monstrous state deficit with lowering taxes for the rich or Mormon multi-millionaire presidential candidates. Good luck!!

711, I don't expect you to understand. Traditional family values is much stronger in the US, than in liberal/progressive Europe. I guess that's why 1/2 of Europe is on the brink of bankruptcy. While the US has its own financial problems, we are still the number 1 economy in the world, and leader of the free world.



I guess your domestic helpers and private boarding schools didn't teach you European kids about personal responsibilities when you were young. Look at the state of the European economies now. Responsible parents teach the kids about responsibilities and hard work, your domestic helper is just there to help you - not replace you.

Again, you are missing the irony of your statement:

The more progressive states in Europe, with more working mums and less traditional social values are actually far better off than others. Compare e.g. Sweden, Finland, Holland and Germany vs Italy, Greece or Portugal.

If that is too far fetched check the difference between the States in the bible belt vs the North-East in your country.

Now, it is probably highly debatable how much of an influence a working mum has on accumulated debt levels, but it certainly shows that wherever she lives people are generally BETTER off!