View Full Version : Dating agencies on the Net

16th Nov 2002, 11:20
As a newly single gal, freinds have suggested I join a dating agency. I'd like to know my fellow ppruners' views on this...
what do you think?? Are these agencies full of nutters?


Or what if we had one in Pprune.. would anyone use it??:D

16th Nov 2002, 13:12
We already do, it's called Chat ;) :D :p

16th Nov 2002, 13:14
Mmm, not sure. The only people I've known to use internet dating agencies have tended to be people with a lack of social skills.

Then again, I haven't tried it so my opinion is worth much..

Single eh, funnily enough, so am I. Has this thread has just become a dating thread...?

Safe flying.

16th Nov 2002, 14:30

How could I of all people forget that!! ;)

str12.. You never know.............:D

16th Nov 2002, 14:55
Techchick: Wanna go out for a date?

16th Nov 2002, 15:54
Penguin :D

You want it when?
16th Nov 2002, 17:24
Well IMHO they are not too bad. I doubt that they are all losers like has been suggested. Face it - do you really want to meet someone at a cattle market or Night Club?

Probably as good to get active in a hobby that you enjoy - meet like minded people and see if you fancy one. A million years ago there used ot eb a club called IVC (Intervarsity Club) it's members organised diners, parties, days out etc.. with no dating pressure. It was based on an an idea from students days - they missed the social whirl while on summer / winter breaks so formed a club to help them along.

Hardest thing to do is to meet someone nice these days. Good luck...

16th Nov 2002, 17:45
Where are we going to "meet"?

Uncle Cracker
16th Nov 2002, 17:48
Never tried a dating agency but I suppose it would cut out all the people who have nothing in common with you. But then again, what about the "phwoooarr" you can only get when you first meet someone gorgeous in the flesh? It's all in the pheromones, you know.

Never been in chat before so just had a look. Empty. You lot trying to tell me something?

16th Nov 2002, 17:51
Tech Chick,
The problem with the internet is that anyone could pretend to be what they are not with no checks done so I would be supremely careful.
I don't know if they have them in your neck of the woods but certainly in the bigger cities they now often have these dinner clubs, essentially they are dating agencies but you meet people at a large dinner party so a slightly safer option I think.

TC , don't rush things hun you never know whats around the corner.


16th Nov 2002, 19:35
Hey Flower

I met the Guvnor at a dinner party many moons ago. <scratching my head here?> Would I therefore be safer meeting people on the internet?

Hmm, food for thought.

Anthony Carn
16th Nov 2002, 19:45
IMHO I'd be very careful, Tech.

There are a lot of nutters around these days.

I should know...........jibber jibber. :rolleyes:

16th Nov 2002, 19:45
Gotta be careful with new people no matter how you meet them! I mean, the nastiest people I've ever known I met through school or college, while some of the nicest people I've ever met, I've met online, both here and in other places.

Agree with you though about waiting - TC, waiting for the right person is well, worth it :)

16th Nov 2002, 20:25
When I was a workaholic negotiator vice president of a bank, travelling (by air) a lot round Europe/N America and barely spending more than a few sleeping hours a day in my apartment, I used to meet all sorts of wonderful guys but ... I was a workaholic and made no time to chill. Since I stopped doing that full-time (mom's ill-health the chief reason) I find that it is extremely difficult to meet folks (and chaps in particular!). Prolly because I, as a single woman, do NOT dine out by myself, do NOT go to bars by myself and ... have yet to learn to "have a hobby" where I might just meet someone with similar interests!! The conclusion? there are surely guys out there who would enjoy my company but I have no clue how to find them. In the meantime, I enjoy my early morning dog walks, browsing the supermarkets for neat new foods (and cooking them - I LOVE cooking!), reading, planning how to not work quite so hard in future etc etc etc

As for dating agencies? Somehow I have always thought of them as meat markets. I have a few good friends scattered around the globe and each time I have half-hinted that I might sign-up they have all been totally appalled (needless to say, most are married with kids now, both guys and gals!!)... and I haven't pursued this.

The idea of going to art galleries, museums or anywhere else with an ulterior motive is too darn manipulative for me ... so I stick with the "if there IS someone out there, our paths will cross one day" school.

So ... when you see me by myself at the occasional PPRuNe bash, it is not because I don't want a partner or dislike guys, it is purely because I feel safe attending by myself! I had thought an American friend (ex USN SEAL) would accompany me to this year's Christmas 'bash but he has had to return to USA - we are great friends but would drive each other nuts on a permanent basis!!

Part of me says I am "single and not really looking" the other part says "single and given up"!!! hehehehe just kidding!


Trick of being single is to enjoy it as it is - this IS life after all and moments don't come by a second time! I am not a back-packing type (did that in my 20s) so now when I travel I do so in a way that suits me, scheduled airlines, pretty decent hotels with good restaurants (if I chicken out of going out for a meal, despite having a book to hand!) ...

My late mother would laugh, when I was young she used to say "darling, never compromise" and in her later years would say "darling, you must learn to compromise" so .... even the person who knew me best in the world couldn't help!!

So techchick just go with the flow - don't avoid opportunities for socialising, don't hide yourself away (as I seem to have) but equally don't go charging into the dating game unless you want to meet a bunch of players!!


tony draper
16th Nov 2002, 20:29
Drapes met many of his victi,,, err friends on the net. :eek:

16th Nov 2002, 20:41
For what its worth a friend got together with his current thru the internet.

They have been living happily in a pad they bought in France for the last few years.

A statistic of one, but it worked for them.

16th Nov 2002, 22:12

I've given it a try -and I'll even admit to it! Had a bit of interesting browsing, a few email conversations, and even met a couple of people. No weirdos; in fact the main problem was that most of them seemed to be mind-numbingly boring. But that may say more about me than it does about guys using internet dating agencies. ;)

This be careful you'll meet weirdos thing is both inaccurate and patronising. It's what women get told whenever they dare venture...well, anywhere. When I walked round the coast of Britain alone I got told I'd meet weirdos, and I never did. Axe murderers are few and far between, and as likely to be in your local pub as on the web. And most of us are reasonably perceptive, or we wouldn't have survived this long.

So, TC, give it a try; why not. But personally, I think I'll go back into chat.:D At least there they understand it if I talk about flying.

17th Nov 2002, 00:24
I found I always meet someone when I am not looking. It worked again. :D

17th Nov 2002, 01:17
Thanks, all, for some interesting and amusing replies.
No plans to rush in just yet....much to sort out!!
But thanks!!!!! :)

17th Nov 2002, 01:46
Try this: lavalife.com

Expensive but a very good system.

17th Nov 2002, 10:38
www.loveandfriends.com is free, and at the very least is a good way to spend a quiet evening when you haven't got a date and you're bored with PPRuNe chat. ;)

Now don't you DARE all go in there and try and work out who I am!!!!!!

Oh Jeez, maybe I should delete that last sentence; they'll see it as a challenge. :D

Bev Bevan
17th Nov 2002, 10:50
Internet dating agencies... nothing wrong with them!

There are a few good free ones.. Lycos do a very good one if you're in the UK:

I have looked at the "pay" sites in the past.. but there seems to be far fewer people on those than on sites like lycos.

I think the problem for many single people is that they dont seem to meet too many other singles when going about their normal life.. In my case.. I meet plenty of nice girls but they always seem to be taken, very few single girls around here :(

So why not use the Internet as a focal point to find other singles.. as has been pointed out already, it's better than the cattle market that pubs and clubs are. You know what it's like.. you're in the pub or club, half p1ssed.. and you meet this nice girl, also half p1ssed.. you swap numbers, meet up and you either get on or you dont.
It's almost the same meeting someone on-line.. except there are no beer goggles, you have the chance to get to know a lot about the other person, their likes and dislikes, what makes them tick etc etc...
There *are* a few wierdo's out there, just like in real life, so you have to be a little cautious.. but then that goes for your "offline" life as well.

I'm rambling now...

my £0.02

Luke Wingwalker
17th Nov 2002, 12:50
A friend of mine married a girl he met on the net and they're one of the closest couples I know. It must work for some then.

Anthony Carn
17th Nov 2002, 13:48

Stumbled across this whilst logging on to Freeserve:


It says it's for over 25 's, but hey, so what if you are four years younger ! :D

Good luck and be safe !

You going to let us know how you get on, then ? (oooer !) :eek:

17th Nov 2002, 14:31

Look Luv................don't even THINK of going there!

I have a friend who has joined sites like Dating Direct and Love at Lycos - I can't tell you the number of weirdos and liars she has met.

She's had photos of men that are years old.

Married men - wanting their leg over.

Single men - who appear ok on the phone and when she meets them turn out to be socially inept.

Men who are into kinky sexual practices - one was a doctor who masterbated over her when she declined sex with him.

The last one tried to followed her home, she met him for lunch, she rang me in tears terrified he had seen where she lived....she was locked in her flat at the time.

I can't warn you enough of the dangers involved - it's not worth it.

As I keep telling her - ok it can be hard- at times- on your own, but it's better to be that way than to meet someone you met through one of these sites.
Of course, there must be some guys that are ok, but you can't trust what they tell you.

You really need to check them out thoroughly first, it's a dangerous game - my advice to you or anyone considering it - DON'T DO IT! shame my friend doesn't take it - one day bad something will happen.

- were you ? :D :D

tony draper
17th Nov 2002, 14:42
Err no 5th, twasn't I.
Ones own preferences involve a tub of stork margerine, a brass firemans helmet, two copies of old moors almanac, a set of stirrups amd a egg whisk.:rolleyes:

Anthony Carn
17th Nov 2002, 16:02
Ah yes, one of my favourites too.

The Stork margarine gives a lovely shine to the helmet. ;)

Of course, the French use butter. :rolleyes: (wait for it !).

17th Nov 2002, 18:00
Met quite a few people over the internet, particularly at uni. Whilst quite a few of those happened to be a little strange I think you can tell before you meet someone (and before you decide to meet them) whether they are ok. Take a mixed bag of humanity, without knowing anything about those you will meet, and you'll always be dissapointed me thunks.

Certainly I've never been dissapointed by anyone I've conversed with at length before meeting. :D

17th Nov 2002, 18:07
Try nerve.com, or if you are Jewish jdate.com. I and friends have met a lot of nice people that way. These are not agencies; they are websites with a personals section.

17th Nov 2002, 18:08
And boys always remember........Them that won't......Will a BIT:)

17th Nov 2002, 21:21
Sure you can meet weirdos. I've met some - in pubs, at parties, on the underground, you name it. Not all of them are sitting on their PCs waiting to trap some poor unsuspecting girl who goes on a dating website. You can usually get rid of them pretty easily anyway. If you can't...well, I don't think any of you would like to hear what I'd do to any guy who masturbated over me if I declined sex with him; it might make some of you guys feel rather ill. Let's just say it involves some rather painful and unnatural things being done to certain portions of male anatomy. Will people ever stop being so patronising and assuming all women are shrinking violets who can't take care of themselves! Any who run in tears from the slightest problem should be forced to go on an assertiveness course at the very least; probably a self-defence course wouldn't go amiss either. Techie, go for it! Life is a risky business, but it's a lot more fun than shutting yourself in a glass case because it might be a little dangerous out there.

17th Nov 2002, 22:10
It's not just the blokes thst the girls meet that are wierd: I have tried internet dating and met a few wierd chicks! That said, I have been out with two or three really good ladies. It turned out that we would not really want relationships, but we have had a few evenings out and enjoyed each others company. They've become mates rather than friends, and are most definitely not going to be marriage material for me, but it has worked after a fashion.

Nothing to lose! Good luck. ;)

17th Nov 2002, 22:12
Hear hear Whirly :) No point in not taking risks is there? Minimise the damage that will be done if things go wrong though ;)

18th Nov 2002, 09:26
Whirly –
‘assuming all women are shrinking violets who can't take care of themselves! Any who run in tears from the slightest problem should be forced to go on an assertiveness course at the very least; probably a self-defence course wouldn't go amiss either.’

This friend of mine is no shrinking violet and she felt very threatened by the guy she met for lunch….!
I would have behaved in the manner you probably would, however, I would NOT place myself in the situation my friend put herself into, (and continues to do) it’s a sad state of affairs when women are made to feel threatened……… but then, if one put’s oneself in a potentially dangerous situation one should be able to deal with it.

There are other, safer ways to meet guys, let’s face it, anyone can pretend to be something they are not on the WWW.
I think the problem with dating agencies on the net is that it leaves emotionally vunerable women wide open for predators, if one is a member of a site, one is seen as actively ‘looking’ for a relationship – and as we all know, the trick is to stop looking – once one does, someone comes along.

Nothing wrong with dating agencies that check their members out first by visiting them at home, at least then you can be sure - up to a point - that you are at least getting what you think you are!

18th Nov 2002, 10:02

Dating agencies on the net aren't the only ones that can be hazardous when it comes to 'safety for women'!!!

What about 'John Cannan'.... the man suspected of abducting and murdering Suzy Lamplugh in 1986... and currently serving a life sentence for the rape and murder of Shirley Banks in Bristol?

He was an avid 'dating agency fan', I watched a programme years ago about him, where he was videoed by one of the agencies..... and he came across as very charming indeed! He was eloquent, intelligent and extremely confident!

The kind of man that would appeal to a lot of women!

He was also a rapist and murderer.... he didn't need a dating agency on or off the net to commit his crimes!

If you make the most of what you have, be happy with your life and have plenty of friends and family to fill your time with...... somebody will come along when you least expect it! :rolleyes:

18th Nov 2002, 12:10

If you make the most of what you have, be happy with your life and have plenty of friends and family to fill your time with...... somebody will come along when you least expect it!

So very true - I can vouch for that! :D ;)

18th Nov 2002, 12:10
Have never tried a dating agency on the net... but I have used lots of other forums on the net. It's very rare that I meet anyone on-line who I have any interest in meeting in real life, either romantically or just for friendship (male or female).

But there are exceptions. And those exceptions are when the on-line forum relates to a "real life" interest - PPRuNe, for example, or an e-mail list about cars. I've met several people who I'd be proud to call friends on PPRuNe and from the car e-mail list, and I'm sure the fact that we had something in common has some bearing on us becoming friends.

I think YWIW's advice to find a hobby is good advice. Can't see any reason why there'd be any problems with dating agencies on the net, any more than there would be walking into a pub and chatting up the first bloke you see standing by the bar. But you'd be more likely to find friends by finding something you're interested in, and those are the friendships that could turn into something more.

But then what do I know?


simon brown
18th Nov 2002, 14:15
Tech Chick

If PPrune had a dating agency, all the fighter/Concorde pilots would get the cream totty. Us PA28 weekenders would get b****r all...

Seriously though, im sure there is as much chance of meeting a wierdo in a pub or club as there is on the net.You just have to use a little common sense, always meet in public places etc etc.

After all if your selling a house you dont walk about with a "for sale" placard do you, you entrust it to an estate agent ( now theres a haven for dishonest weirdos if ever there was one)

You want it when?
18th Nov 2002, 14:17
Simon - following your posts this PM with a laugh. Did you get out of bed the wrong side or were you born with chips on both shoulders (at least your even keeled)? :D

18th Nov 2002, 14:56
You got a bike, what do you want a woman for? ;)

Yes you can f*** them. I did when I threw Junior down the road in Cairns a few years ago.

Go on, get your butt into the leathers and take the bike for a good long hard ride. You know you want to. Weather? Sheesh...

On second thoughts, you are right. It's f***ing freezing up there. :eek: :D

18th Nov 2002, 18:15
The Dating Agency Dictionary...Pertinent stuff :) .

* 40-ish...........................49
* Adventurous.................Slept with all your mates
* Athletic.........................No tits
* Average looking............Has a face like an arse
* Beautiful........................Pathological liar
* Contagious Smile...........Does a lot of pills
* Educated.......................Was fcuked to bits at Uni'
* Emotionally Secure........On medication
* Feminist.........................Fat Lesbian
* Free spirit......................Junkie
* Friendship first...............Former slut
* Fun...............................Annoying
* Gentle...........................Dull
* Good Listener...............Autistic
* New-Age......................Body hair problems
* Old-fashioned................No BJs or anal
* Open-minded.................Desperate
* Outgoing........................Loud and Embarrassing
* Passionate......................Sloppy drunk
* Poet...............................Depressive
* Professional............... ...Bitch
* Romantic.......................Frigid
* Social............................Fanny like a clowns pocket
* Enjoys Restaurants...............Fat
* Bubbly..........................Fat
* Voluptuous....................Very Fat
* Large lady ............Hugely Fat
* Wants Soulmate.............Stalker

18th Nov 2002, 21:50
chaffers, you nutter :)

18th Nov 2002, 22:25
Years ago the trick to meeting people with a similar interest was night school.
Chemistry A level was a big surprise at the number of single women attending, and the beginners guide to cooking was a definite 50:50 split men/women. Though it has to be said that a lot of the women there were quite helpful to us poor non cooking blokes! In fact some of the food we took back home could be said to be not wholly of our own making!

The trick of course being to find something interesting to you, that is also interesting to the other sex as well, or at least the type of person that you think that you would actually like to meet.

Footie? perhaps not!

simon brown
19th Nov 2002, 13:34
You want it when,

Getting out of my bed the wrong side would entail knocking a hole in our bedroom wall and falling 30'

As for the chips.....its called having a sense of humour

19th Nov 2002, 17:20
Reddo, :D :D :D . You know what my right hand's for!!;)

Anthony Carn
19th Nov 2002, 17:36
Apparently, the 24/7 hours of the big supermarkets is leading to an increase in people who become acquainted there in the wee small hours ! :cool:

Food for thought, Tech ? :)

19th Nov 2002, 23:58
Exactly. Keep a good firm grip and twist freely. ;) :D

20th Nov 2002, 13:44

I'm a newly single guy, if your interested let me know? ;)


20th Nov 2002, 20:02
LOL. I rarely venture into Jetblast, but glad I did in this instance. Danny could make a whole lot of loot out of PPROLS, as a spin off of PPRUNE....Professional Pilots Relationships On Line Services.

Reddo's a great gal; just don't give her your front door key, because she will surely lose it and you will get a hair-raising experience of blue flashing lights to remedy the situation.


21st Nov 2002, 14:40
I didn't lose the front key. I was given the wrong one. Subtle yet distinct difference.
Now, if a Flight Ops Director gives you a front door key, make sure it works is my top tip. Or else you too could be locked in a flat for 2 days with nothing else better to do than clean the kitchen to keep warm! :D

21st Nov 2002, 19:44
LOL Reddo

Didn't your Mom ever tell you never to accept keys from Flight Ops Directors???

I'm sure they teach that in kindergarten these days. :rolleyes:

22nd Nov 2002, 14:54
Try- www.snogg.net or www.royaldate.com

Your gonna get all the weirdos and p***takers on it, but remember take the ruff with the smooooth but hey, what the hell.


they're looking for contestants

u may get lucky....


Celtic Emerald
22nd Nov 2002, 18:59
Well I've joined about a zillion clubs but ain't met anyone half decent yet that I'd fancy (call me a fussy old cow if you like) but give me time give me time though I say I'll stand a better chance meeting someone of like mind than on the internet.!!! As far meeting someone over the internet, marraiges have been known to come out of it though I'd say there few & far between.

I signed up to one of these dating agencies that hotmail advertised for the laugh, had a gawk at the talent & that was the end of it, I couldn't tell you my username or password to save me life. I prefer to be able to see & feel the goods before sampling though PPRuNe I'd imagine ain't a bad way if ya want to go the internet route, alot of people know each other or have been sussed out (nosy nosy) & have a common interest. Otherwise gawd knows what ya might end up with if ya go the dating agency way, the so called 25 year old hunk might be as old & shrivelled as a prune alright with 5.6 kids to boot & a Mrs that would murder ya :eek:.

Thread carefully my dear!


Whah is your right hand for???? To chop off??? Oh & you've got a weird way of spelling 'weird' :p


22nd Nov 2002, 19:17
I think the problem for many single people is that they dont seem to meet too many other singles when going about their normal life.. In my case.. I meet plenty of nice girls but they always seem to be taken, very few single girls around here

Yep...I know that feeling! I don't like chat rooms personally - I'm rubbish at typing. An exchange of email is probably the best method - people tend to reveal a fair bit about themselves in writing letters, so it gives you a chance to get to know them a bit better.
I know several people that have met their partners/wives on the net - so there is definitely something in it..

22nd Nov 2002, 19:22
At least he can spell marriage.... :rolleyes:

Celtic Emerald
22nd Nov 2002, 19:32
I think she fancies you :D


22nd Nov 2002, 22:04
Nah, I can't go out with any one that looks better than me in a kilt. :D

And he rides a jap bike... at least it's a V-twin though.
But he looks great in leather ;)

23rd Nov 2002, 04:23
all i can say dear cousin (tc) is that a online dating service worked for me, and i am now happily non-single, ;)

23rd Nov 2002, 08:49
Good on ya, cousin, hope its going well!!;) xxx