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probes
23rd Jan 2015, 21:50
- if someone looks too good to be true - is it too good to be true? A friend of a friend of mine has found a Portuguese guy (perfect, as the Italian and Portuguese are... unless you prefer the Vikings, of course), no financial troubles (=pleas for money) or anything (yet?), but still...

and of course there are real romances, even I know one couple for whom it really worked (but neither of them looks too good to be true)...

Anyway. Anything encouraging for the happy bride-to-be, hopefully? Am I just too suspicious of (breathtakingly) handsome guys?



P.S ok, I do know one... well, maybe two, who are normal as personalities.

G-CPTN
23rd Jan 2015, 21:54
Good-looking guys aren't the only problem - it also applies to good-looking women.

BWSBoy6
23rd Jan 2015, 22:05
My daughter is 25. A beautiful, bubbly blonde, professionally qualified. Own flat. Financially independent. Gets loads of male attention and offers but can't seem to find the right bloke. She's now registered with an online dating agency. I always thought these kind of things were for saddos but if someone like her needs to get online, then there must be a lot of other genuine people out there too.

con-pilot
23rd Jan 2015, 22:08
Jeez, go to a bar/pub to find women or men.

Worked for me.


For women that is. :O

G-CPTN
23rd Jan 2015, 22:41
The drawback of visiting pubs to meet potential partners is that you restrict the candidates to those who choose to visit such places.

Not that pubs are necessarily undesirable places, but you exclude those who choose not to drink.

Churches are places where people collect, as are exercise gymnasiums or, even, supermarkets - and don't forget public transport.

However, are you restricting encounters to physical attraction?

People have personalities.

If you have an interest (such as music), attending concerts or joining a club would bring people with similar interests together (which, of course, is what happens with visits to pubs and nightclubs).

hiflymk3
23rd Jan 2015, 22:51
con-pilot. It didn't work out with the men then?


Sorry

Hydromet
24th Jan 2015, 00:28
Way before t'internet, back in the days of lonely hearts magazines:

The wife of a colleague passed away not long before he retired with a substantial super payout. After he retired, feeling lonely, he started corresponding wit, and eventually met, an attractive lady via a magazine, and the friendship developed. Everyone warned him that she was probably a gold-digger, but would he listen? Of course not.

Eventually, they became a couple, and it turned out that she was substantially wealthy, with her own business in real estate management. They had a long and happy coupleship until his death about 20 years later.

Mind you, he was one of those people who attract good luck (or make their own). He did some seriously dangerous flying during the war & came out unscathed, flew in dangerous parts of the tropics afterwards, and survived a disintegrating glider with no serious damage to himself.

Walking Ballast
24th Jan 2015, 00:40
I did the ‘traditional’ pub/club scene where I found the first Mrs Ballast, and as things go, and some ppl can relate to…. Marriage, kids, house – divorce. Yeah, all bad.

I do have to admit to having a job at the time that was not really relationship friendly, shift work, lots of time away on short notice, periods of time without any communications and hence not talking to family. Reflection has shown 75% of the marriage breakdown was focused on my job and attitude at the time, which is funny, cause that is also roughly the amount of the financial loss I suffered post-divorce as well!

I had a few fleeting short (measured in days/weeks) and REALLY short (measured in hours/days) relationships that were a result of internet dating sites. Nothing that lasted and nothing serious, no one I would take home to meet the parents anyway. I never really took the internet dating thing seriously; it was what it was as far as I was concerned. At that time there was a bit of a stigma about meeting someone on the interweb, and it was not something that you went home and discussed with your mother to be honest. It was a dirty little secret.

Then along came what would turn out to be my best friend, my drinking partner, the giver of street directions (which she gets wrong, but I don’t tell her that), the foremen of our renovations, and the woman I am pretty much happy to spend the rest of my life with. Mind you, at the time I didn’t see it coming.

We met on a website (NOT Faceb00K) that was based around our shared interests and not really a dating site either. I was not looking for a relationship, short or long term at the time, it just sort of happened, sort of snuck up on me really.

As friends, and out of shared interests, we spent the first year just emailing/sending messages and then skyping and the odd phone call. Our interactions were around our shared interests and world events and happenings in each others lives, we were not really pursuing a relationship at that time. It was 12 months of back and forth like this before we actually met face to face.

We lived about 950km apart at the time; neither of us expected anything to eventuate. So after weekends away or the odd road trip we went back to our respective lives, locations and the continuing electronic communications back and forth. Then the face to face meetings began to increase in frequency, the romance sort of grew into the relationship it is today.

Long story short and to save readers from the gooey bits in-between…..we have been living together for a few years after overcoming some rather large personal and legal challenges to do so and have managed to survive the greatest threat to most relationships – the renovation - so far anyway.

I think the secret to us was that we started as friends and grew to know each other on a lot of levels all while still communicating over via the interweb thingee and over a protracted period of time.

I have seen both sides of internet dating, and I have some horror stories to prove it, I also found the rest of my life on the internet.

So, Probes, I hope it works out, I do believe that sometimes it is what it seems to be and wish all the best for the Bride to be.

BWS – Sorry, I am taken, but I have a friend…..

Con – (I say this tongue in cheek:D) Did they have Bars when you were young…wasn't it about the time of prohibition?:E:E

Yeah, Internet dating can work for some.:ok:

Loose rivets
24th Jan 2015, 00:50
Am I just too suspicious of (breathtakingly) handsome guys?


Oh, don't be. We're okay . . . honestly. :p

Takan Inchovit
24th Jan 2015, 01:12
Probes: Tell your friend to try looking in the gutters outside pubs and bars. It worked for Mrs Inch quite a few years ago.

eastern wiseguy
24th Jan 2015, 01:40
Back when AOL was my ISP they had a random chat feature. This enabled you to chat with random AOL users if you liked their profile.

One afternoon ,before leaving for work, I was paying some bills online. Just as I was about to close the computer down I recieved a random chat request. I was about to ignore it and go..but I thought "2 minutes " .

That was in 2002 and the random chatter was Mrs EW .

We will have been married nine years in February.

Sometimes it works.

I had to move to tropical Ohio though :uhoh:

RadarContactLost
24th Jan 2015, 02:57
Met one online about 15 yrs ago, both of us in aviation. Nearly every weekend we would fly somewhere and spend the weekend together drinking and shagging in a motel somewhere, usually on an island in the caribbean. :ok: (no, I'm not Slash)
Ended up living together in kric where i discovered she was a mean drunk. She came home one Saturday night blind drunk and kicked in the front door because she couldn't fit the key in the lock. She woke me up and started an arguement then called the coppers and said I hit her. I did not hit her, I have never hit a woman and never will. Anyhow, coppers turned up and I pleaded my case,told them I never hit her and she had no black eye, no bruises, no blood, etc. Didn't matter, the coppers decided I was guilty and hauled me off to jail. She admitted in courtthat she liedand I never hit her but the judge still gave me a 9 yr suspended sentence. Not long after the court date she came after me with a metel skewer I nearly called the coppers but didn't, depending on who's side of the story they believed, I coul'd have gone to jail again. Couldn't take the chance of going back to jail for something I didn't do. Moved back to kfwa not long,after.

Exascot
24th Jan 2015, 03:57
Mrs Exascot will not let me go on line dating.

Found her on an aircraft on casivac in the Gulf War. I was the captain she was the nursing sister in charge down the back. I think her first words to me were, 'You don't want to go back there today captain we have some really bad burns patients'. Great chat up line :rolleyes:

mikedreamer787
24th Jan 2015, 05:28
Am I just too suspicious of (breathtakingly) handsome guys?

I guess that explains why you're not the
least bit suspicious of me at all Probes. :(

Solid Rust Twotter
24th Jan 2015, 06:19
Hah! You think you have problems?

I have a face like a rhino's bum wearing an exploded mop and they're still suspicious of me. I think they're wondering how I escaped from my cage....:}

Pinky the pilot
24th Jan 2015, 06:28
I have a face like a rhino's bum wearing an exploded mop and they're still suspicious of me. I think they're wondering how I escaped from my cage....

Do you wear a yellow tutu as well?:D:E

Stahlhelm, flakjacket, slit trench etc

Solid Rust Twotter
24th Jan 2015, 06:34
Tutu? One is a het tiger and sports a mankini...:}

Tutus are for girlie-man rangers.

Capetonian
24th Jan 2015, 07:54
A friend of mine is attractive, independent, dynamic and intelligent well-travelled and successful. Bright, bubbly, lively, and outspoken. She's Rhodesian, grew up in CPT and now lives in the UK. Just before she turned 40, about 3 years ago, she joined a dating site (Fish in the Sea?) and received a number of 'propositions' ranging from:
"I got 9" 4U. Txt me",
some with photos of the (ir)relevant body part, to others rather more likely to be the type of man she might be looking for.

I remember the hilarious conversation we had about this, as we walked along a Cape Town beach one sunny morning. She remembered many of the emails from sad pathetic losers, as well as those from people more likely to be suitable.

After engaging in an exchange of brief emails with one guy who seemed to be a potential 'Mr Right' over a period of a few weeks, they agreed to phone each other.

After a few minutes of her talking, she said : "Now tell me a bit more about yourself ........." He said :
"I drive a BMW ........"
Not : "I'm a car fanatic and I like BMWs and ...." but apparently the fact that he drives a BMW is, to him, the pinnacle of achievement and desirability. Needless to say, that budding relationship went nowhere.

A few weeks later, back in the UK, I ran a pub quiz down the road from where she lives, she came along and I put her on a table with a couple and their son who was visiting from South Africa - a complete coincidence. I had no idea. After a few dates they 'became an item' and are still happily together, and this is about three years ago.

In fairness, I also know some happy couples who met through on-line dating. I know other people who've spent years happily shagging people they've met in the same way.

A male friend of mine who's single wrote a book about his experiences about online dating. It's called Divorce, Viagra, and Dating. To be honest it's very entertaining but crap, with some amusing scenes in it. An aeroplane read ...... I think it's still available on Amazon.

B Fraser
24th Jan 2015, 08:11
A good mate who is the last person I would ever have thought would need to use online dating met his missus that way. Similarly, she is absolutely top drawer totty. I would even say she is easily in the top 5 most attractive women I have ever met and has the patience of an angel.

I tried it after getting divorced and only met neurotic basket cases who were out to improve their financial position or were running away from their past.

It works for some. Being a lucky barsteward seems to help too.

UniFoxOs
24th Jan 2015, 08:50
I tried it after getting divorced and only met neurotic basket cases who were out to improve their financial position or were running away from their past.

True enough. You have to kiss a lot of frogs...

Flypro
24th Jan 2015, 09:19
I met my partner online, spookily some two weeks before a mutual friend was planning to introduce us. We were both the injured parties of divorce.

After almost nine years together we are getting married in under two months time. The happiest nine years of my life:ok:

Capetonian
24th Jan 2015, 09:23
Long before online dating was around, a friend of mine was introduced by a well-meaning friend to a girl she thought he might like.

Unfortunately, it was his ex-wife!

Worrals in the wilds
24th Jan 2015, 09:33
It can work (I know two successful couples who met via online dating sites) but there are a lot of horror stories about bunny boilers of both genders :eek:. Given Australia's small population several online daters I know report that the same people tend to bob up frequently; no doubt their dates say the same thing about them. :}

If it's a means to meet people then it's probably as good as the traditional methods (pub, work, mutual friends etc, where the same people also tend to bob up regularly) but I get concerned when people 'meet' Mr/Miss Perfect online but don't actually meet in person. There seem to be quite a few Walter/Waltina Mitty types floating around cyberspace.

So...IMO if he exists in person, vaguely resembles his online persona and doesn't appear on any local Wanted posters then all power to her. If he continually fobs off real life meetings, sends a bunch of generic 'man with big watch and fancy car' stock photos allegedly of himself and starts asking for money transfers to fund his study/work visa and airline ticket be concerned because as I'm sure you're aware, there's a lot of this sort of thing around, and otherwise intelligent people do seem to get sucked in :sad:.
Romance scam/fraud | Western Australia Police (http://www.police.wa.gov.au/Crimetypes/Technologycrime/Scams/Romancescamfraud/tabid/1940/Default.aspx)

joy ride
24th Jan 2015, 09:50
Learn to play the drums...join a band...play gigs...get partners.
Never fails.

Capetonian
24th Jan 2015, 10:37
She went on to remark that she wouldn't make the mistake of marrying a handsome and charming man again.My maid returned form a holiday in her 'homeland', the Transkei, and announced she'd got married, and would I like to see a photo of hubby. Hard to say 'no' really, so she showed me a picture of an elderly man who must have been quite unappealing to her as she was young, so I'm thinking he must own a few hundred goats.

She tells me : "I married an old ugly man so I know he won't be unfaithful to me!"

Loose rivets
24th Jan 2015, 10:48
I have a family member who was widowed all too early. He went on line for a pal. They've been together for a good number of years now and really seem to enjoy life.

People say to me, get used to being single. Move on. I just think, move on to what? I've never had an affair and find the notion of another partner utterly . . . for once, I'm at a loss for a suitable word, even a funny one.

Worrals in the wilds
24th Jan 2015, 10:54
I've never had an affair and find the notion of another partner utterly . . . for once, I'm at a loss for a suitable word, even a funny one. IMO there's nothing wrong with being single. Society still places a lot of importance on having a partner, but there are plenty of unhappy people in relationships.
As an elderly Irish lady once said to me; 'better to be on the shelf dear, than in the wrong cupboard.' ;) Don't get pressured into hooking up with someone if you don't actually want to, even if your mates try to convince you that it's the only way forward.

Fox3WheresMyBanana
24th Jan 2015, 11:10
SV2hshsChlk

mad_jock
24th Jan 2015, 11:17
the thing our single (and some not so single) use is a thing called tinder.

It give rise to the term tinder girl.

I find it quite disturbing to be honest as they sit on their phones or their phones make a noise when ever someone else that uses it is near them. Then out comes the phone and they spin in a circle to see who it is.

No long term relationships that I know of unless 48 hours is counted as long term.

sitigeltfel
24th Jan 2015, 11:20
If you have a date set up for St Valentines day, you can really impress her with a range of fragrances.

February the Farteenth. (http://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/worldnews/europe/france/11366600/French-inventor-of-famous-scented-flatulence-pills-adds-new-ginger-flavour.html)

Windy Militant
24th Jan 2015, 11:32
There seems to be a bit of a shift from Dating sites with a number of people meeting through online communities. The number of themed weddings through cosplay, music or retro fashions etc where shared interests act as the catalyst to bring them together. I wonder if there have been any Pprune hook ups!

Any way the Skatalites seem to agree with the ugly spouse theme!
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Capetonian
24th Jan 2015, 11:33
unless 48 hours is counted as long term.
It can be a lifetime. I spent 48 hours with an ex g/f and it was the longest 48 hours of my life ..... it seemed like a life sentence and when I saw her backside going up to the check in area at the airport I felt as if I'd been reprieved from a life sentence.

Worrals in the wilds
24th Jan 2015, 11:35
the thing our single (and some not so single) use is a thing called tinder.
No long term relationships that I know of unless 48 hours is counted as long term. Doesn't always end well! :eek::ouch:
Timeline: The night Warriena Wright fell from Gable Tostee's apartment balcony (http://www.brisbanetimes.com.au/queensland/timeline-the-night-warriena-wright-fell-from-gable-tostees-apartment-balcony-20140908-10e4zm.html)
http://www.goldcoastbulletin.com.au/news/crime-court/gold-coast-highrise-murder-accused-gable-tostees-supreme-court-bid-for-freedom-adjourned-as-judge-says-murder-charge-weak/story-fnje8bkv-1227051069682

mad_jock
24th Jan 2015, 12:49
Apart from a couple of trips to the clap clinic I think our lot mostly have Happy endings ;)

mad_jock
24th Jan 2015, 13:12
Tinder boys/girls don't charge.

funfly
24th Jan 2015, 13:38
I went down the traditional route with my first wife; met at a dance, courted for a year, engaged for a year then married in the local church.

What a bl**dy mistake that was, I wouldn't recommend it to anyone.:ugh:

probes
24th Jan 2015, 13:53
Wow, what interesting posts... life is more varied than fiction for sure.

And Worrals, you must be one of the most reasonable persons I know (of). Of course the main point shouldn't be 'online', jerks can happen to one any time. Maybe it's just that if (s)he is really good-looking, (s)he is expected to be more pretentious, or something.

Well, funfly... :sad:

Gertrude the Wombat
24th Jan 2015, 14:43
'better to be on the shelf dear, than in the wrong cupboard.'
To every wise old folk saying there's an equal and opposite wise old folk saying, as in "many hands make light work" vs "too many cooks spoil the broth", "penny wise pound foolish" vs "look after the pennies and the pounds will look after themselves", ect ect.

So ... how's about:
There's one thing worse than being used, which is being useless.

dazdaz1
24th Jan 2015, 15:35
henry.... "It was when I had an introduction to a grandmother with a large family (families) who started making demands before we'd even met that I finally pulled the plug......" I take it she might have been from Nigeria?

Having said that, might it not be a good idea for this site to have a 'cupid' forum? There must be a plethora of cabin crew who want to meet real men from JB:ok:

finfly1
24th Jan 2015, 15:42
"My maid returned form a holiday in her 'homeland', the Transkei, and announced she'd got married, and would I like to see a photo of hubby. Hard to say 'no' really, so she showed me a picture of an elderly man who must have been quite unappealing to her as she was young, so I'm thinking he must own a few hundred goats.

She tells me : "I married an old ugly man so I know he won't be unfaithful to me!"

She has some support from Harry Belafonte who sang "If you want to be happy for the rest of your life, never make a pretty woman your wife".

PM sent to a contributor above who told my (our) story almost verbatim.

probes
24th Jan 2015, 15:46
dazdaz, you dazzle me. How did your thoughts jump from grannies with big families to cabin crew? :confused:

vulcanised
24th Jan 2015, 16:43
a good idea for this site to have a 'cupid' forum?


For cupid stunts?

mad_jock
24th Jan 2015, 16:58
How did your thoughts jump from grannies with big families to cabin crew?

Maybe he has just come across the pond with united?

If he starts going on about fat bottom girls its a cert.

Windy Militant
24th Jan 2015, 18:27
Perhaps she heard this song and turned it around.

Which is the original version covered by the Skatalites which was posted by me in post #32 :ugh:

con-pilot
24th Jan 2015, 18:47
Which is the original version covered by the Skatalites which was posted by me in post #32 :ugh:

Sorry about that, I didn't put two and two together seeing there was the picture of a very pretty young lady your link, when the song is about marrying an ugly woman.

I just remember that Jimmy Soul sang the song orginally.

No need to get upset (:ugh:), it was just an honest mistake.

I have deleted my post, I hope this makes you happy.

Windy Militant
24th Jan 2015, 21:47
No need to get upset (), it was just an honest mistake.

I have deleted my post, I hope this makes you happy.,

Hello Con there was no need for you to do that as I quite like the original version as well as the Ska version. The head banging was more down to the random appearances of posts these days. I had a similar thing happen on the two types of petrol thread the other day.

racedo
24th Jan 2015, 22:49
Met SWMBO via online dating have had a few relationships via that method............. and some very short term ones as well :ok: prior to meeting SWMBO. Couple of kids and 10 years plus under the belt and both quite happy....................

I have heard the sniggering comments for years but do know of least half a dozen other now married people who met that way and probably could find lots more if asked.

Its not like old days where thousands of people all worked in same place and met lots of people be it on bus / train etc. People work longer hours and after a while seeing same faces just didn't cut it or you actually know what they are like.

Love to know divorce rate Internet v Non as I found you could find out lots before meeting someone.

One set of friends met via net and had done a couple of dates nothing really serious and she needed to return to her country in EU to care for an ill parent, they kept in touch via email and occasional phone call. After one visit back to UK he just decided sod this as realised that life with and without were so vastly different.

Yup there are some weirdos out there and have met some.

If you think about it how many of us on here have made friends and met others via Net, some its catching on old work friends and others its shared interests.

I know when AOL big in late 1990's I met some Yankees who have spent loads of time with and they with me, no way on earth would we have ever met but now we see each other every other year.

OTOH worked with a guy who made Monday fun as pretty much had different lady every night of the weekend................ he really wanted a long term relationship but in 6 months I knew him he was er very active.

ruddman
25th Jan 2015, 07:13
You know, I made a list once of what I considered to be the luckiest girls in the world. Girls who have married rich men. Good looking men. Who have achieved much in life. Owned successful businesses. Etc etc etc.

A huge list. Pros and cons to find the number 1. And you know who came out as number one?

My wife. True.

Every morning I awaken as she does and notice this strange expression on her face. One of bewilderement. Surprise. Shock. After making my list it hit me why she had that look. She also considered herself to be the luckiest girl alive to be married to me.


I guess my looks, charm, humour, body etc never puther off from aiming high. So don't give up Probes. You too can be as equally fortunate as my wife is. :8

SMT Member
25th Jan 2015, 08:32
10+ years ago I had dozens of very short relationships via various internet chat sites, and when I say short we're talking about one, maybe two, shags.

Worked nights at the time, with a really great team of guys. We were 3 guys on shift in load control, but in reality 2 of us could do the job. That left one guy open to trawl the innerweb in search of totty, and roughly every second night someone would bite. Quite often they'd be in the other end of the country, but that was no problem as I would mount the flight with a destination closest to the residence of the girl. Telling the unsuspecting that I'd be arriving via private aeroplane dropped more than a few knickers ;)

probes
25th Jan 2015, 11:46
very chick, SMT! :cool: ("private" planes, that is)
btw, rud man - have you informed you wife? (that she's No 1 on the list, that is)

Effluent Man
25th Jan 2015, 12:49
My Ex went on that fish site. She told me she had a date with an ex Royal Marine. I think the second date was ex-SAS. The chap she met eventually and set up house with has serious mood swings.I think he is a decent enough chap,just has some problems.

ruddman
25th Jan 2015, 12:51
Er..............................no. Because um......she.....well.....she wouldn't really.....um....you know? That's not really er....her thing to um....talk about.

:uhoh:

:oh:


:ouch:


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dazdaz1
25th Jan 2015, 16:06
Mad Jock/et al...... I can assure you after making 'provisional' advances to cabin crew on this site, I have received positive feedback.

From what I have comprehend from PMs Nigerian flight crew (not all) have been following Mr Draper, for some reason the ladies are infatuated by a man who can bake a Hovis loaf, they really want to experience walking on cobble stone streets.

Russian cabin crew are seeking men who smell of oil and give them a slap when dinner is not ready.

French c/c are looking for a sugar daddy. No link to this young lady:= she's mine.

Worrals in the wilds
26th Jan 2015, 07:55
My Ex went on that fish site. She told me she had a date with an ex Royal Marine. I think the second date was ex-SAS. Was she sure about that?
Walting With Confidence - ARRSEpedia (http://www.arrse.co.uk/wiki/Walting_With_Confidence)
As previously mentioned, an ex-AJ mate reckons that if the number of people who claimed to serve with the SASR had actually served with them, the regiment would have been larger than the entire Australian Army. :hmm:
Certainly a large number of nighhtclub 'pilots' fall apart under questioning. My personal fave was the enterprising young bloke who picked his mark rather poorly; a group of female airport law enforcement/border agency officers enjoying a night on the town :E. To his credit he backed off pretty quickly once he figured out that his story was being met with suspicion.

Capetonian
26th Jan 2015, 08:20
Same in Southern Africa. Every second ex-BSAP tosser claimed to have been a Selous Scout.

reynoldsno1
26th Jan 2015, 23:06
Way before t'internet, back in the days of lonely hearts magazines

... some friends of mine set me up on a blind date by responding to an advert in such a publication. They then left the country, but I went on the date anyway. Three months later we were married - that was 25 years ago...:)

probes
27th Jan 2015, 04:17
Why did they leave the country?
I think we should be told! :E

John Hill
27th Jan 2015, 05:51
One Friday afternoon, I know it was Friday as they only came once a week, the crew of the HS748 called me at first contact VHF, about 200 miles, and said "John, we have something for you!"

I thought it might be a very welcome consignment of fresh vegetables or even varied supermarket fare but no, their next comment was. "She has red hair and freckles!"

The new midwife for the island was on the plane, a lonely young woman all alone in a totally foreign culture!! .... so I did the decent thing and she is still with me!:ok:

P.S. Not really red head, but the freckles were true enough.

Worrals in the wilds
27th Jan 2015, 09:08
I have to say, this has turned into such a cute thread. :ok:
The stories about how many of you met your permanent full time friends (or even fixed-term contract, part time friends :cool::}) have been uplifting, even to this bona fide cynic. :):)
Hope springs eternal!

Capetonian
27th Jan 2015, 09:29
Years ago I had a disastrous 'blind date' set up for me by a well-meaning friend, the same one who thought my vegetarian girlfriend would eat chicken.

At lunchtime I'd been into my UBS building society branch in CPT, where I knew all the staff as the manageress was a personal friend, to draw cash. By chance the queuing system meant I ended up at the counter of a new girl who asked me for my ID document, which I didn't have. I explained and said that any of the others could vouch for me, but she was thoroughly obnoxious about it, so I politely told her my view and went to another position.

Later in the afternoon my friend J. phoned to ask me over for dinner as she'd met a girl at the gym whom she thought I'd like.

By one of those unfortunate coincidences in life - which reminds me I have a piece I need to publish about coincidences - it was the same girl. Even worse was that she lived near me and I had to give her a lift home, a 20 minute drive in total silence.

joy ride
27th Jan 2015, 11:50
I met "The War Department" (she does not mind that I call her that) at a gig ten years ago*.

There is an important law which states that all other members of a band must stand in front of drummers to ensure that the audience cannot see them. She was trying to get a photo of each member of the band, but whichever way she leaned or moved, a band-mate would comply with the law and block her view. I started noticing the trouble she was having and ran out between songs so she could get a shot. We had a laugh, two other women also got interested, but as I am also an amateur smudger she and I got on fine straight away.

*10 years of putting up with me and she has STILL not got a VC, GC or OBE!

TWT
27th Jan 2015, 12:31
I once arranged a meeting with a woman online,the place was outside a restaurant.

At the appointed time a creature that looked more like something from the black lagoon ( hideous androgynous blob) asked me if my name was XXXX.I said 'No,but there was a guy hanging around here who just left'.


Close call :eek:

Ancient Mariner
27th Jan 2015, 13:42
I got a call at work from a girl I didn't I didn't know asking me if I wanted to go to a home-alone party with another girl I didn't know, although the caller insisted I did.
At the time I was part of a gang who were into old American cars, and we spent every free evening driving up an down the main street of this little town picking up girls. How could I know the name of each of them?
Anyways, girls are the opposite sex and home-alone parties are always "interesting" so the obvious answer was YES!
Fortyfive years, two daughters and five grandchildren later we are still good(ish).
Per

rgbrock1
27th Jan 2015, 14:42
probes wrote:

Am I just too suspicious of (breathtakingly) handsome guys?



P.S ok, I do know one... well, maybe two, who are normal as personalities.

Ah shucks, probes. Ya didn't have to mention me. :}

Crepello
27th Jan 2015, 21:11
Can work - met my missus through a big website that rhymes with 'batch'. We now have two kids, so it's an expensive hobby! Friends of ours have exactly the same story.

Picked up some remarkable experiences along the way and online dating's a subject I love to discuss... but after 14 years here on pprune, I was recently barred from a different thread, apparently for expressing an opinion that differed from the moderators'. So to avoid risk of offending absolutely anyone, I'll say no more. :mad:

Krystal n chips
28th Jan 2015, 05:10
By one of those unfortunate coincidences in life - which reminds me I have a piece I need to publish about coincidences - it was the same girl. Even worse was that she lived near me and I had to give her a lift home, a 20 minute drive in total silence

Well, that will be something to look forward to !....what sort of print run do you envisage for this publication, just out of interest ?

Sadly, yet again, silence from a lady in your company.....there would appear to be a trend developing here.

On the lighter side of dating....in those pre-internet days....as read in crewrooms various at times to alleviate the boredom....the Sunday Times and the Torygraph used to have a " Lonely Hearts" page.

There were, it seemed, an awful lot of "40 something blonde lady, accustomed to the finer thing in life, seeks well educated, professional gentleman to enjoy The Season, etc, etc".....which could be translated as gold digging madam seeks vain mug for free loading junkets at Ascot / Henley etc....

The male of the species, invariably "mature, company director, good physique for age, seeks attractive, younger feminine lady for mutualy rewarding encounters"....or, married, over 60. overweight, over optimistic male seeks 20 something to display to mates as to how he can still attract women.....and one who may actually be daft and /or desperate enough to have sex with him.

Always wondered how many, ahem, "successful encounters" resulted from these adverts....

Effluent Man
28th Jan 2015, 07:49
Worrals, I'm not sure whether you got the hint in my post. Apologies if you did, but of course they were not SAS. One in fact worked in a Tesco convenience down the road. Another guy told her he been convicted of a murder and various sexual assaults. It seems that character enhancement takes some people down some interesting routes.

I think that the internet just coincided with a generation who were quite fun focused rather than worrying about the morality. My first experience was a lady from Nova Scotia who was a triathlete and visited for the New Year, we had a great time.

Worrals in the wilds
28th Jan 2015, 08:53
Worrals, I'm not sure whether you got the hint in my post. Apologies if you did, but of course they were not SAS.I got there in the end. :\ As you say, all is not what it seems on the internet. It's one of the things that puts me off internet dating. Of course real life is similar, but at least you have the chance to ask questions. I'm fortunate in that I have enough working knowledge to ask pertinent questions such as 'so do you know Corporal So-and-so' (as listed in the ARSSE article) :E. Sometimes the answer backs up the story (in one case, 'hell yeah, I was his WO!', which led to a pleasant mutual-embarassing-stories-down-memory-lane booze fest), but there are a lot of pretenders out there, from both genders.

Yonks ago I went out on the town with a girlfriend and her female friends (not friends of mine) and we ended up chatting with some guys. I was a bit horrified to hear one of the gals describe herself as a psychologist, and confided to my new found male friend that this was BS. 'No worries', he said; '[male friend] isn't a property developer, either'. :rolleyes:
FWIW my new found friend and I ended up giving them the slip and enjoying a short-lived but pleasant (and honest) dating relationship.

Flyingmac
28th Jan 2015, 10:12
I was on a ten month overseas contract with a colleague. We'd been there a few months when he brought a quite stunning local girl back to our rented flat. He said he'd met her in a bar.


He was quite besotted and brought her back home with him. That was over 15 years ago. They're now happily married with two lovely kids and living abroad.


There was nothing to be gained by me telling him that I'd made her acquaintance before he had, and her rates were quite reasonable.


I've no idea how much he knows. I know he's happy.

LGW Vulture
28th Jan 2015, 10:43
This thread had me thinking on more than one level.......

Number 1 - I played drums for a number of bands in the 80s and 90s and never once did it ply me with endless amounts of ladies. In fact, brings back the old joke.....What do you call a bloke who hangs around with pop groups? Answer: the drummer! :rolleyes:

Number 2 - Whilst "gigging" in one large city North of the Border - on a night off, the bassist, lead guitarist and myself - we asked two young ladies where we might find a decent bar at a such a late time on a weekday evening. The answer was "well you can follow us if you wish, there's one a few hundred yards away". One of those ladies became Mrs V and indeed we celebrated our 25th Wedding Anniversary late last year. :)

One never knows one's fate.

panda-k-bear
28th Jan 2015, 14:06
Well, that will be something to look forward to !....what sort of print run do you envisage for this publication, just out of interest ?

Sadly, yet again, silence from a lady in your company.....there would appear to be a trend developing here.

What in God's name is wrong with you KnC? Do you feel so inferior that wherever a certain pruner posts you feel you have to have a malicious dig? Is that the Socialist way? Following someone around and being spiteful? Dear God. And you really should get that keyboard looked at. The 'full stop' or 'period' key seems to be sticking dreafully again.

probes
28th Jan 2015, 16:14
yeah, I was wondering, too, if it (=Whats K's issue with C?) should be posted as another stupid question or maybe PM-d :uhoh:.

Anyways. My own experience - mostly real-life, though - has been that people of the opposite sex (ok, men) turn up when you least expect them to or are least interested. Like working frantically in a pub, to combine getting some food and getting something done under a deadline. About a quarter of them are kinda-thick, about a quarter are really interesting people, but even the ones closer to the thicky-end of the spectrum might cheer you up - who wouldn't like to be told "You're charming", even if I know it's not true and probably the dim light has influenced their judgement.
That's why I don't believe in dating sites. Or looking for someone. Tried about twice when young and without any results.
But I sometimes still regret I didn't give my phone number to an extra cute guy (the Robin Hood type) when I hitch-hiked when I was around 20+. http://f30.bimmerpost.com/forums/attachment.php?attachmentid=131200&stc=1&d=1203894206

Democritus
28th Jan 2015, 22:21
....the Sunday Times and the Torygraph used to have a " Lonely Hearts" page.......Always wondered how many, ahem, "successful encounters" resulted from these adverts....

I answered many ads in the Sunday Times Lonely Hearts page around 25 years ago and had a ball. Met some lovely ladies and rarely had a bad encounter. One of them was special - have been married to her for 22 happy years which isn't bad out of 24......:E.

Capetonian
28th Jan 2015, 22:39
What in God's name is wrong with you KnC? Do you feel so inferior that wherever a certain pruner posts you feel you have to have a malicious dig? Is that the Socialist way? Following someone around and being spiteful? Dear God. And you really should get that keyboard looked at. The 'full stop' or 'period' key seems to be sticking dreafully again.
I no longer read K&C's utterances, since he (she?) is my entire ignore list, but comments like the above make me wonder what type of person this is that seems to have little better to do than sneer and snipe at every posting I make in order to find some way of working in a nasty remark. A malevolent stalker, it would seem, not that it worries me.
I don't think it's directly related to socialism, but is more the result of jealousy and an inferiority complex, although some people who think they suffer from an inferiority complex simply are inferior.

Fox3WheresMyBanana
28th Jan 2015, 22:42
I no longer read K&C's utterances, since he (she?) is my entire ignore list,

........+1 :ok:

Seldomfitforpurpose
28th Jan 2015, 23:46
KnC's posts keep the hit counter turning which equals revenue.

There can be no other reason why he/she is still here as I cannot remember the last time he/she had anything positive to offer.........

MOD's feel free to come in on this one :ok:

reynoldsno1
29th Jan 2015, 00:59
Why did they leave the country?
I think we should be told!
Well, I could make up some elaborate tale, but the truth is they had already planned to leave, and thought it would be a jolly fine jape as a farewell memento - and, indeed, it was ...:ok:

Loose rivets
29th Jan 2015, 01:47
What would I have to do if I went out on a date? I can remember dating . . . just.

vaqueroaero
29th Jan 2015, 04:34
I know of a couple who met using Yahoo's dating service, they were both divorced.... After much emailing back and forth they agree to meet somewhere public.
Somehow they get their lines crossed, she was at one fountain in the park, he was at another. You get the idea. She calls the number he has given her.............and it goes through to a phone sex line. She goes ballistic, they eventually find each other, he gets an earful from her about wasting her time and it turns out she had written the number down wrong.

14 years later they are still happily married.

Worrals in the wilds
29th Jan 2015, 04:49
What would I have to do if I went out on a date? I can remember dating . . . just. Coffee is standard. Don't do dinner on a first date, it takes ages to eat dinner and there's always a wait for the food, so it's really awkward if you don't hit it off. At least you can finish coffee and a cake in 30 minutes if the situation is deteriorating.

Personally I think meeting to do something is safer; go to the Art Gallery, something like that which both parties have an interest in. Then you don't have to sit across the table from each other, thinking of questions to ask like it's a Record of Interview. :eek:

Anyway, that's just my opinion. :)

probes
29th Jan 2015, 05:08
At least you can finish coffee and a cake in 30 minutes if the situation is deteriorating.:cool:

Doing is safer, but not always... I met a guy we had agreed to take a walk together with, me in my flip-flop type of things ("mock shoes", he said, even though they weren't the beach-type rubbery ones) I wear almost everywhere in summer, and he in his trekking boots... :p
It did smooth out later, though.

Solid Rust Twotter
29th Jan 2015, 06:10
Same in Southern Africa. Every second ex-BSAP tosser claimed to have been a Selous Scout.


One of the scariest buggers I ever knew was in fact in the BSAP. Ex Brit SAS and when I met S/Maj McA as a dom troep in the SAW he had a lot of ex Scouts working for him.


Online dating? The impression I get is that it's a magnet for illiterate bunny boilers and serial killers/stalkers. Took a look at a couple of profiles once and it put me off the whole idea.

ruddman
29th Jan 2015, 06:31
probes

It did smooth out later, though.



What smoothed out later? The flip flops? His trekking boots? Your hair? His hair? The ironing?

:confused:

Worrals in the wilds
29th Jan 2015, 06:59
SWT, that's about my view (spectacular success stories notwithstanding). In a smallish town the other problem is that all too often they're the same bunny boilers and serial killers :ouch:. A few mates were into it, and they seemed to find the same people kept bobbing up, as there were only so many people getting involved. It was like a big cyber-swingers club, which (in fairness) is okay if that's what you're into.
I met a guy we had agreed to take a walk together with, me in my flip-flop type of things ("mock shoes", he said, even though they weren't the beach-type rubbery ones) I wear almost everywhere in summer, and he in his trekking boots... :p
That's hilarious! :ok: Reminds me of a tennis party I went to as a dorky teenager. I thought it would involve a couple of social games and lunch, but when I turned up everyone was dressed like Martina Navratilova and deadly, deadly serious. I ended up as ball-girl. :ouch:
I suppose the lesson is; make sure you're both on the same page prior to the activity.

Effluent Man
29th Jan 2015, 08:57
If you think about it the nutter quotient is always going to be high . If (say) 50% are ok and 50% are not the ok 50% quickly encounter an ok partner whilst the nutty half continue going around meeting ok people who reject them as fruit cakes and other fruit cakes.

Worrals in the wilds
29th Jan 2015, 09:07
Good point...:8

AtomKraft
29th Jan 2015, 11:23
A mate of mine went into this online stuff after he split from his wife.

He had some amusing encounters, one of which was dinner with a decent woman, which led to him having his clothes ripped off and forced to spend the night humping in an agreeable fashion. He rather liked this, so rang her up for a second date. She never returned his call, and eventually he realised that he'd just been used for sex. He found it quite hurty, but I must admit to smiling inwardly. It had never bothered him before when he was doing the using.

Finally though, he did meet and marry a woman. I've never been able to figure out if one should screw her or milk her. Still, both seem quite happy with each other, so that's a result! :ok: