View Full Version : Little Millie- a request to our colleagues in the aviation industry

Indiana Jones
21st Dec 2014, 21:30
I am sorry if you think this post is inappropriate and I would understand if this new thread was retracted by the moderators.

I have worked 30 plus years in the aviation industry, with three US carriers in the UK and my son, who just turned 27, is a power plant engineer.

My son and his partner were expecting their first child in March 2015 and sadly little Millie came early, some four months early, on Dec 12. She was cared for extremely well by the neonatal clinic in St Georges Tooting but sadly lost the fight and died in her mum's arms six days later. There were 32 premature babies in St Georges whilst Millie was there. My son and I, for our sins, are also West Ham fans, and I wanted to draw your attention to his heartfelt request on the West Ham online forum KUMB (Knees Up Mother Brown-what else?).

Knees Up Mother Brown - West Ham United FC Online: Forum ? View topic - 3 points for Millie! (http://kumb.com/forum/viewtopic.php?f=2&t=156226)

The neonatal clinic is 75 per cent funded by a charity and the cost of looking after a premature baby is 1200 a night.

Clearly we are all devastated by our loss, Millie touched so many hearts in the short 6 days with us and we will always remember us. Please take a look at my son's posting on KUMB and if possible think about a small donation to the charity enclosed.

Thankyou so much for reading this, safe travels this Christmas.

21st Dec 2014, 21:43
Sorry for your loss Indy. :sad: Donation made.

Indiana Jones
21st Dec 2014, 22:08
Thankyou so very much, its means such a lot to my son and I. I wish you and your family a very peaceful Christmas and a very Happy New Year.

21st Dec 2014, 22:16
Sorry to hear about something that is so close to my heart, Neonatal Care facilities in UK.

My twins, who were forcibly some 4+ months prematurely born on December 13 in 2007, after complications to one of them inside the womb (twin 2 would have died in hours as his cord had a reverse flow, thus not getting anything useful from the placenta to live off). We were shuttled between 3 hospitals and ended up delivering in Huntingdon, Cambridgeshire, some hours away from home, due shortage of SCIBU beds and staff at our local hospital.
After just over a week after birth, they were finally transported to our local SCIBU in Milton Keynes.
Weeks later, having contracted Streptococcus-B, still in SCIBU Milton Keynes, they overcame that with some great hospital staff looking after them.
Days later twin 1 caught Streptococcus-B for a second time, for twin 2 however, when tested as well, was by then already past this stage, unknown to staff. He subsequently developed Meningitis, simultaneously paired with Pneumonia he lay on death's door for 3 days, temperature 42+ and a heart rate above 200!
Specialist told us we would be lucky to take one of them home...

They BOTH came home due to the staff at all hospitals they attended, including Oxford's John Radcliffe, which is still treating twin 2 for Hydrocephalus contracted as a direct result of Meningitis, a further 2 late onsets of Meningitis he has endured in more recent years.

We were lucky. We also realised that the funds given to the neonatal units in the UK is shambolic compared to other humans in other wards (one-on-one care exists for the 'elderly' but for infants in neonatal care some hospital pencil people reduced this vital care to 1-3, even though treating a person who cannot tell you what is wrong is much more intense).

Since their homecoming we donate to our local Neonatal Unit each month, generously, knowing that without such financial help, then provided by others, my twins would no have turned 7 last week!

Although I am unable to donate to each neonatal unit in the land, I would urge every member of this community to get in touch with their local unit and ask if there is a provision for fundraising for these vulnerable people in society, yes people, like us, just a lot younger and not lucky enough to have remained (for whatever reason) in the womb long enough to grow stronger before facing the world.

21st Dec 2014, 22:38
Good to see you've exceeded your modest target here.
Donation made and may you all soon come to terms with your sad loss.

Indiana Jones
22nd Dec 2014, 09:26
Skyjob, what trials and tribulations you went through,like you I didn't realise that many of the neonatal units are mostly self funded. I hope the babies strong and healthy now, 7 year olds?...my sisters daughter went through the same scenario, twins, although one was placed in Kent and the other in Brighton. One developed cerebral palsy. They are both 12 now and its been a rough journey for them all. There were 32 other babies there the six days that Millie was in, and its just heartbreaking to see them all so young.

Thanks again for taking the time to post and hope you all have a great Christmas.

Indiana Jones
22nd Dec 2014, 09:28
Dear Capetonian,

Thankyou so much for your generous donation, it means a lot to my son and his partner and of course to me. Its great to see the aviation fraternity come together, as it does in many other subjects and show its true spirit.

Have a great christmas.

Mr Optimistic
22nd Dec 2014, 09:45
Very sad to hear this, donation made.

Indiana Jones
22nd Dec 2014, 14:41
Mr Optmistic, thankyou so much for your donation....so kind and Millie's Mum and Dad are so appreciative.

What happened to them and Millie has brought to our attention something none of us knew,..that the neonatal clinics up and down the country are 25per cent funded by the NHS and 75 per cent by Charities.

As we talk to more and more people about our experiences we realise so many couples have had similar experiences and lost their little children at such an early age.
Thankyou once again.
Merry Christmas


wings folded
22nd Dec 2014, 14:51
Not at home at the moment, so it is a bit difficult to research how such services are funded thereabouts, but will look into it.

I bet I was not the first to learn that such units are not fully funded from central sources.

Probably some more do know that if the volunteer heros who charge out into an evil sea in their lifeboat, if you are bobbing up and down in a life raft, have their kit funded purely from charitable donation.

I've never needed their service, but I have always done my little bit to make sure that they have the best kit available for their perilous missions.

What kind of society can allow incomplete funding of neonatal care, or maritime rescue, but pay for an MP to have his moat cleaned?

22nd Dec 2014, 16:12
I'm very sorry for your loss Indiana. Thank you for posting this and giving us the opportunity to contribute (both my children were born at St. Georges). I hope that the good that may be done in Millie's name as a result of the appeal brings some small comfort.

Donation made.

Indiana Jones
23rd Dec 2014, 18:43
Thankyou so much Octopussy 2 for the kind donation. So kind.

Thankyou too Wings Folded, we really appreciate your comments.

Merry Christmas everyone and thank you again.

23rd Dec 2014, 18:55
Glad to see that WF and I agree on some things. RNLI is one of the very few formal charities I support regularly. It is a disgrace that they are not fully funded by government.

wings folded
23rd Dec 2014, 19:35
CapetonianSorry, but we disagree again

The RNLI works wonders and superbly well, I think, because it is not overseen by pathetically ill-informed, land-locked navel contemplators, but rather by people who live by the sea, with the sea, with the dangers of the sea, who know what their mission is, and just get on with it.

If government got involved, a month and a half of hearings would be needed before every launch.

I am happy that we do not let that happen, but it does need people to help fund it.

So therein is our common ground. After all.

23rd Dec 2014, 19:40
WF : yes, fair comment, but I did say funded by government, not run by government. I suppose the two go together and government interference at any level would be a negative.

wings folded
23rd Dec 2014, 19:56
We agree! Not a first, but rare nonetheless.

Whenever was anything funded by government not messed up by government?

RNLI and all their volunteers, not just the crews, but all the back up as well, are the kind of people who give me the will still to live.

Insofar as we are able as a society, to fund this endeavour, by voluntary contribution, so that lifeboat crews have the best kit available, I would like to leave things as they are.

Sorry, by the way Indiana, if I appear to hijack your worthy thread, but i am a little bit passionate about the services which we might all need one day, but which we know others need daily

Mr Optimistic
29th Dec 2014, 18:21
Best wishes.