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timmcat
30th Aug 2011, 21:24
I've been asked by 'Foxy Loxy' (Gemma) to pass the very sad news on that 'Foss' (Graeme Foster) passed away earlier today. The exact circumstances are as yet unconfirmed but Graeme was found earlier today by Gemma at the home they shared in Cornwall.

Hopefully, despite some members having issues with Graeme previously, we can maybe use this thread to pass on our condolences to Gemma and Graeme's family.

My own condolences go to Gemma at this sad and difficult time.

Hugs chick.
xxxx

Cacophonix
30th Aug 2011, 21:25
This is utterly sad news!

Caco

Edited to say I never knew Foss but, strangely, felt I did. He clearly was a good man in need of some help.

Go well fellah!

Mike X
30th Aug 2011, 21:28
R.I.P.

Godspeed.

McGoonagall
30th Aug 2011, 21:29
Calm seas and a safe harbour.

west lakes
30th Aug 2011, 21:30
Timm, agreed

Knowing the effect it has had, my thoughts go to all those involved

Lon More
30th Aug 2011, 21:33
Oh shit. We had our differences but IŽd never wish that on anyone. RIP

Gem, wishing you and his family all the strength in the world

CityofFlight
30th Aug 2011, 21:34
Sincerest condolences for Gemma and Graeme's family.

Rest in peace, Fos.

Little Lady
30th Aug 2011, 21:38
Thinking of you Foxy, such devastating news xx :(

Radar66
30th Aug 2011, 21:45
Hugs Gems..... Thoughts and prayers are with you.

May the G be forever healthy and demon free now. I enjoyed the time I spent with him in Zoom.

Poor bugger's going to get a right earful from Snappybits though!

G-CPTN
30th Aug 2011, 21:46
Chin up Foxy girl.

I hope Graeme's passing was peaceful.

Too shocked for further comment . . .

Edited to add:-
He had a prodigious talent.
He will be missed.

con-pilot
30th Aug 2011, 21:57
Very sad news indeed, hopefully he is back with his dog he loved so much.

brockenspectre
30th Aug 2011, 21:58
How very sad. I will always remember his fabulous stories of Daisy... he had such a marvellous knack with words!

RIP Foss.

{{{{{{{{GIANT HUG FOR FoxyLoxy}}}}}}}}}

luv brockie

tony draper
30th Aug 2011, 22:01
Sad sad news.

Whirlygig
30th Aug 2011, 22:02
My sincerest sympathy to Foxy Loxy and Foss's family.

Whirls

corsair
30th Aug 2011, 22:03
Oh dear, very sad. I communicated with him amicably on a few occasions. Felt I almost knew him.

RIP.

gingernut
30th Aug 2011, 22:08
Sorry to hear that news. :(

Loose rivets
30th Aug 2011, 22:11
Yep, me too. He passed a valuable comment or two on a chapter of mine I sent for him to read. That was a long time ago.

I bet there's a tail wagging furiously up there somewhere.

BombayDuck
30th Aug 2011, 22:19
Didn't know he was Cornish too.

As G-CPTN said, he had talent. Sad.

Ozzy
30th Aug 2011, 22:22
RIP

Ozzy

Pseudonymn
30th Aug 2011, 22:36
That's terrible news, I'm so sorry to hear about this. (((Hugs))) to Foxy but I'm sure Daisy was waiting at the Rainbow Bridge for him. :\

pigboat
30th Aug 2011, 23:00
RIP Fos, condolances to his friends and family.

My deepest sympathies Foxy. :(

cleo
30th Aug 2011, 23:00
Sad sad news indeed. Hugs to Foxy and TRABBForce on full please.

DX Wombat
30th Aug 2011, 23:17
That is so sad. RIP Graeme. Big hug Foxy.

jet_noseover
30th Aug 2011, 23:22
My heart goes out to you, Foxy. Such sad news.

Stay strong, girl.

Avtrician
30th Aug 2011, 23:41
Sad news indeed. My condolences Foxy.

I had the pleasure to speak to Fos a time or two via Skype. Apart from the language difficulties :hmm: they were interesting conversations.

Your wit will be missed by many Fos, RIP

Krystal n chips
31st Aug 2011, 04:56
My condolences along with many others on here.


A contributor whose posts were always enlivening as indeed were his views at times...:ok:

cavortingcheetah
31st Aug 2011, 05:11
Deepest sympathies to you and yours.
cc

flugholm
31st Aug 2011, 06:54
Very sad.

My condolences for Gemma and Graeme's family.

green granite
31st Aug 2011, 07:04
RIP http://209.85.48.8/1889/52/emo/saddy.gif http://209.85.48.8/1889/52/emo/saddy.gif http://209.85.48.8/1889/52/emo/saddy.gif

Gemma you must be devastated, http://209.85.48.8/1889/52/emo/huggy.gif http://209.85.48.8/1889/52/emo/huggy.gif http://209.85.48.8/1889/52/emo/huggy.gif

Standard Noise
31st Aug 2011, 11:31
Just heard this morning when I got a PM from Gemma, such sad news.
It made me think not only of the side splitting adventures of Daisy, but also the banter we had here over our shared love/hatred of the school we went to.
And just for indulgence (and because it's the last time I'll probably do it on here), the school song.........

Comgall noster Columbanus
Sanctus noster Gall, Britannos
Effecere Christianos.
Floreat Bangoria,
Deo laus et gloria.
Sana mens in corpore sano
Hic quaeratur et humano
Quisque sit discipulus animo.
Ne pavidus exeat.
Laboraturus inter pares,
Oraturus, oraturus,
Fidem quolibet lauturus.



Rest peacefully Fos, say hi to Daisy and keep a look out cos Brucie and Bowana are up there too!

SN

eastern wiseguy
31st Aug 2011, 12:04
Another Bangorian gone west....too bloody young.

Met him once at an airshow....only knew it after we spoke on here.

His stories made this a happy place to be.

Say again s l o w l y
31st Aug 2011, 14:21
This has hit me like a ton of bricks.

Graeme was a lovely bloke. Funny, kind and he really did give a monkeys about people.

When I was in hospital he'd usually be the first one to e-mail or send something daft through the post to cheer me up.

Cheerio Fos, I'll miss you.

clicker
31st Aug 2011, 15:49
Heard the news from West Lakes while travelling home late yesterday evening, sad news indeed.

Condolences to Gem, the familes and all their friends.

Daisy now has her guide to show her their heaven.

Cheerio
31st Aug 2011, 17:07
Very sad for Foss, I wish he could have read this thread.

Mr Chips
31st Aug 2011, 17:22
Gemma - its a long time since I've seen you in person, but big hugs from me

stevef
31st Aug 2011, 18:25
What depressing news to hear. I always enjoyed Foss's contributions and won't forget the PM I received from him out of the blue after a post I made in a thread about what jobs we'd like to do instead of our present occupations. I'd said I wished I'd gone into journalism and he gave some encouraging advice about it never being too late. He also admitted to being in the trade himself but kept it quiet because he'd get a royal Jet Blast savaging!
He was all right by me.
Very sorry for your loss, Foxy.

Davaar
31st Aug 2011, 19:29
I am so sorry to have this news. Deepest sympathies to those left with the nearest loss.

mustpost
31st Aug 2011, 21:26
Very sad news indeed. RIP Graeme..

ShyTorque
31st Aug 2011, 21:26
My sincere condolences. Very sad indeed. :sad:

racedo
31st Aug 2011, 21:59
Condolences.

Worrals in the wilds
31st Aug 2011, 22:43
That's rotten news.
My Condolences, Foxy.:sad:

11Fan
31st Aug 2011, 23:23
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Romeo Delta
1st Sep 2011, 02:17
Much has already been said more eloquently than I could ever have said it. Just know that we're thinking of you, Gemma, in this difficult time.

RD

Foxy Loxy
3rd Sep 2011, 23:24
I would like to thank everyone for messages of support and condolence. Graeme wasn't perfect, but who is?
Many people loved him very much. Graeme was a strong believer in the saying (I think this is an ancient Greek philosopher) that no-one is truly dead if they are remembered.

Graeme, thank you for the time we had together.
http://i274.photobucket.com/albums/jj242/Foxy_Loxy/DSC03115.jpg

G-CPTN
4th Sep 2011, 00:19
I'll second Graeme's belief in that!

I was raised as a Christian (Sunday School, Abbey Choir boy and man, bellringer and a 'server') - and with brother-in-law a Cof E vicar and I had social contact with several Bishops and a couple of Archbishops, including Canterbury.

As I matured I became less of a believer, and being a scientist I am uncertain about what constitutes 'the afterlife' and 'Heaven'.

However, I attended the funeral of an elderly neighbour where the vicar propounded that the afterlife was what was retained in the memories of the survivors.

This makes sense to me, so, continue to exercise your memories of the departed (I regularly recall the times that I spent with my grandfather who died when I was seven years old, and my belief is that he is therefore in 'Heaven'.

I believe that some aboriginals hold similar beliefs and exercise the memories of their ancestors with stories that they retell from generation to generation.

Works for me . . .

(why not adopt it for yourself, regardless of your attitude to religion?)

Long live Foss in our hearts and minds!

fernytickles
4th Sep 2011, 03:21
So sorry to read this. Foss's stories of Daisy were fantastic.

Howard Hughes
4th Sep 2011, 05:51
I'm stunned, RIP Foss.

unstable load
4th Sep 2011, 09:55
RIP, Foss. I enjoyed your posts.
Big hugs, Gemma.

Foxy Loxy
13th Sep 2011, 23:20
Fos's funeral took place on Monday 12th.

Worrals in the wilds
13th Sep 2011, 23:42
Sad news.
IME funerals are always a whirlwind of 'Thanks for coming, glad you could get here, where the heck has Father O'Dwyer wandered off to now, the bugger's half demented but he's a Family Friend, what do you mean the funeral directors don't know where the bloody cemetery is, are there enough sandwiches to go around, yeah isn't it a lovely get together and actually I'd rather get a bottle of something alcoholic, a tray of frigging sandwiches and a quiet ten minutes away from all of you'. Then they all finally go away and you're left there. :ooh:

Just my experience, anyway. All the best darls. We haven't met, but all the best. Funerals are a trial, particularly after they're done and all the irritants go away.
I always enjoyed Foss' posts.

Foxy Loxy
14th Sep 2011, 09:35
Never having been to an "Irish" funeral, I didn't really know what to expect.
Some aspects of the day itself I struggled with, being English and all that. It is quite markedly different in some ways.

I tell you though, he would have been chuffed to bits at having a Police escort. And I had someone say to me, "Has the Parades Commission been notified about this?" A quote worthy of Graeme himself.

It is a desperately sad time.

lexxity
14th Sep 2011, 12:35
Maybe Foss sent that parade to help you raise a smile on a desperately sad day. Huge hugs darling. xx

tiggerific_69
28th Nov 2011, 14:16
Oh god how awful do I feel....I haven't logged into PpRuNe since June 2010....I just logged back on to try and find Fos to ask if I can still get his book, because I never got round to sending a cheque when it came out. I didn't look thoroughly through JetBlast and so I just sent him a message asking if I can still get copies. Then this thread only came up after searching on google for idiot dog daisy.

What a terrible shame, I'm so saddened to read this, but at least he is with his beloved Daisy now. If only I had bought the book in the first place :-(

RIP Fos

G-CPTN
28th Nov 2011, 15:05
Only a select few received copies of his book, the remainder (including myself) never saw anything for their money nor any refund . . .

My copies would have been Christmas presents for members of my family - who would have greatly enjoyed his writings.

A great talent lost to mankind.

Foxy Loxy
7th Feb 2012, 08:00
I put this on TRABB a while back, but for anyone who missed it, I took an estimate of the money outstanding and donated it to the RNLI.
I did this for three reasons: 1) I have no idea who was owed what, 2) I had been meaning to donate to them anyway, and 3) It's what he would have wanted.
I hope everyone is OK with this.

DX Wombat
7th Feb 2012, 12:55
As I said then, I wasn't affected by what happened with the book but I think it an excellent idea to donate to the RNLI. A braver, more selfless, generous group of unpaid volunteers such as the Lifeboatmen would be hard to find. Foss may have made mistakes in his lfe but he is now helping to save the lives of others. Well done for your thoughtfulness and kindness. :)

Standard Noise
7th Feb 2012, 21:40
Nice one Foxy!

It would be nice if Graeme's critics would now come here and acknowledge this lovely gesture.

11Fan
7th Feb 2012, 21:46
My utmost respect Foxy.

May you find peace.

Foxy Loxy
7th Feb 2012, 21:48
I have only done what I believe to be the right thing to do.

11Fan
7th Feb 2012, 21:57
Honorable, nonetheless.

TBirdFrank
7th Feb 2012, 23:28
I can't believe that I did not write earlier - Foxy - there is nothing so honourable as trying to retain someone being taken away by their demons.

You have chosen a valuable and important group of volunteers to receive this donation, people who also put themselves second.

Graham would have been proud.

V2-OMG!
8th Feb 2012, 01:51
Concur with 11Fan.

Loose rivets
8th Feb 2012, 02:41
I spent last summer overlooking the Walton on the Naze lifeboat at the end of our pier. Fabulous tradition and worth.

Strangely, I've mentioned Foss several times in the last few days. I went to reopen a thread about publishing a novel, and his was the last post. I talked to my pal in Ireland about what happened.

A retired skipper has published his first novel, and added it to Kindle books. If only Foss had been able to divert his work onto an e-reader. I'm convinced it would have flown off the electronic shelves and given him the impetus to carry one with the printed version. Life is a lot about timing.

As I've said before, Foss read and appraised a couple of my chapters, and showed a natural ability to review the work and make helpful suggestions. I was saddened to hear the news of his passing, but now wonder if something could be done to prolong that aforementioned memory of him by getting Idiot out to the world on e-books.

Is there any way his book could be transferred over to Kindle and other e-readers?

kellirvin
9th Feb 2012, 16:47
Have to concur. I self published a well made hardback book. I have given a lot of them to my friends. There is no doubt some sort of Kindle deal would have been better for me.

G-CPTN
9th Feb 2012, 17:01
I was always convinced that Foss's writings would 'sell', which was why I encouraged (nay pleaded with) him to publish.

I'm not a publisher, but I have recently met one, so I might enquire from him about how such things are achieved. It would be, as you suggest, a worthwhile memorial - not only to Foss but also to his beloved dog. You could tell from his words and the way he expressed them what a wonderful creature she was.

At one stage I held copies of his work about Idiot Dazy, but these have succumbed to a hard drive failure (and I wasn't lucky enough to receive any of the copies that I requested for my family and myself).

If anyone does have a spare copy I will gladly buy it from you . . .

PM me.

Ich57
9th Feb 2012, 18:02
So who owns the rights to the book? Foss possibly died interstate so, in that case, his parents probably do.
It seems that some want to prolong this issue by keeping this idea of the book going, perhaps they might be better talking to his parents!

Foxy Loxy has, by all accounts, drawn a line under it with the donation, perhaps everyone else should.

Loose rivets
9th Feb 2012, 20:50
Well, here's one reason.



Graeme was a strong believer in the saying (I think this is an ancient Greek philosopher) that no-one is truly dead if they are remembered.


EDITED to remove conjecture.
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Ich57
9th Feb 2012, 21:16
I doubt anyone that came into contact with him in recent times will forget him, for a number of reasons.

No message, just trying to point out that posting on here wanting a further print run of the book is probably a total waste of space and time.

Whirlygig
9th Feb 2012, 21:16
Foxy Loxy has, by all accounts, drawn a line under it with the donation, perhaps everyone else should. Agreed. I have, despite those prodding for public acknowledgements.

If so, best to come right out with it.Sometimes it isn't best for private disputes and differences to be made public.

Cheers

Whirls

Loose rivets
9th Feb 2012, 21:28
despite those prodding for public acknowledgements.

Edit: Not too clear what this means.


What I'd written was nagging at me, and I'd already come to the conclusion it was best to retract the last part for the reason you suggest - also that it sounded abrupt, which was not my intention. However, I just missed the last couple of posts.

I'll also remove the mention of a specific example of e-books.

However, I still feel there is an argument for going to e-books, where there is little investment and certainly no question of a print run. Who would benefit? I have to say, I didn't give that a thought, since there is always the RNLI in the background. Also, those that were left without their books, could perhaps have a prepared electronic copy. Not the same I know.


It's just that it seems a shame to let the work fade away.

Ich57
9th Feb 2012, 21:34
However, I still feel there is an argument for going to e-books, where there is little investment and certainly no question of a print run. Who would benefit? I have to say, I didn't give that a thought, since there is always the RNLI in the background. Also, those that were left without their books, could perhaps have a prepared electronic copy. Not the same I know.

And as I said the rights probably rest with his parents so you would be better addressing any suggestions to them, not on here - unless you are expecting someone else to do it for you!!

11Fan
9th Feb 2012, 22:17
Interesting. You certainly seem to be well acquainted with the subject matter, despite having zero posts and just joining PPRuNe, yesterday actually.

I don't recall your name, but your fez is familiar.

:p

Lon More
9th Feb 2012, 23:14
There are lots of things that i would like to happen in my life. Unfortunately wanting is all it is.

Out of respect to Foxxy Loxxy, and to Graeme, it's time to forget it and move on.

Foss is not going to be forgotten by those who were really important to him.

Standard Noise
9th Feb 2012, 23:55
Enough about the bloody book! Dear god will this ever stop??? It won't happen people, get over it!
Foxy has made a lovely and very generous gesture, is it not enough that everyone can be magnanimous enough to say so and stop thinking about themselves?:ugh:
There are more important things in this world but if it means so much then use the search function and cut'n'paste your own copy, knock yourselves out!:rolleyes:

ENFP
10th Feb 2012, 16:39
Interesting. You certainly seem to be well acquainted with the subject matter, despite having zero posts and just joining PPRuNe, yesterday actually.

I don't recall your name, but your fez is familiar.

Struck me between the eyes also.

Whirlygig
10th Feb 2012, 18:54
You certainly seem to be well acquainted with the subject matter, despite having zero postsDoes that actually detract from the point being made? Other than the fact we don't know who's said it ... so what?

Cheers

Whirls

Loose rivets
10th Feb 2012, 19:15
I think it does, but then, the reason I moderated - in the literal sense - my posts, is I picked up on Floating on Brine. Just wondered.

Primarily, it's Foxy's sensibilities I'm concerned with, but may well have acted on putting 2 and 2 together and making 5.

All in all, as I made clear, I applaud the concept of the donation to the RNLI, and would feel it appropriate for the book to be carried on. It's just the opinion of one struggling writer, and nothing more.

11Fan
10th Feb 2012, 19:46
I'm done with it Whirls. ;)

pigboat
10th Feb 2012, 22:50
Out of respect to Foxxy Loxxy, and to Graeme, it's time to forget it and move on.

Foss is not going to be forgotten by those who were really important to him.


Foxy has made a lovely and very generous gesture, is it not enough that everyone can be magnanimous enough to say so and stop thinking about themselves?

Wot the gentlemen said.