Johnnie was here yesterday, he's gone today, he's forgotten tomorrow, c'ést la guerre.
My father-in-law* would have none of this 'counselling' - "Honour the dead and march on" was his dictum. As a family, we follow his example.
* He joined-up in 1915 at the age of 15yrs. Life Guards and Machine Gun Corps for the remainder of the war.