Canute
I don't think people really hate her: I certainly don't. I do think she is making the situation worse for herself by continuing to try to spin the facts - which do seem to be very well documented - to paint herself as blameless and misunderstood.
If she would just stand up and own up, people would probably accept that and everyone could just move on. Of course, the longer it takes for her to do that, the harder it gets.
On the specific of the RAF wings: it's not just those who have earned them who object. I have not earned them and therefore would never wear them; but, as I have posted before here, I have shared a cockpit with several veterans who did do so in harder and more dangerous circumstances than I, you or Miss Curtis-Taylor can imagine; and I find it offensive that anyone could pretend to belong to the same class of aviator as them.
I don't think that to be unreasonable, nor that I am alone in that sentiment.