However painful it may be, this is a conversation that it is necessary to have.
Equally, I understand your point of view on this and agree we shouldn't have a row about it, especially not here.
It is indeed an important topic, but I just think it should be discussed somewhere that the relatives of the person involved will not be following (unless they specifically want to). Can I suggest that, if you can agree, you start another thread?
Many thanks for your understanding.