Nutloose, far too many innuendos in your post!
Seems to me the best way to integrate the "new acceptance" of all sexual preferences in the military is to make a point of NOT over egging the pudding, so to speak. After all, it's not an over-riding consideration of how well a person does their job, is it?
Equality is, equality makes. = , =.
BTW, one of the most professional people I worked with on my crew "came out" when it first became acceptable to do so. I most definitely am not of the same sexual preference, despite my banter with SFFP. We trusted our lives to each other and respected each other 100%, no issues there. Off duty he was a real gentleman, too. One of the few SNCOs I took as a guest into the Officers' Mess. I reckon he was too much of gentleman to go flaunting himself in uniform on a "Gay march" just to prove a point to satisfy someone else's sense of political correctness.