A good pilot isn't necessary someone who has the best instruction but more likely had the better attitude and applies themselves during the instructing. Laziness and spoon feeding is unfortunately a trait of many of students these days and yes they will get a ppl but would I want to sit in a cockpit for 5 hours with them, probably not. If your one of them, stick to your day job. If not and you want to feel like a pilot then you need to read, understand and question why things work the way they work and also put it into practice. Sounds to me like you need to get up in a plane without an instructor holding your hands and challenge yourself outside your comfort box. If you find yourself interested, challenged and solving your own problems and then wanting to go back home to read about the weather you just flew in, or what carb ice is etc then you will make a fine pilot. If you burn holes in the sky 2 miles from your local airfield then your still in your comfort box and not really experiencing being a pilot. Go flying!