Jackw106, thank you for the YouTube video of Christina Olds' tribute to her Dad. So full of love and pride, and rightly so. I would commend it to all, never mind the book itself on which her presentation is based.
You need to put aside an hour and threequarters to do so, which I only realised when she wasn't half way through, but you won't regret it, and I defy anyone who does so to have a dry eye at the end of it. His headstone is surrounded by bottles and coins. You bring a fresh bottle to replace an empty one, you drink a toast and "Throw a Nickel on the Grass...". Most will know why, just watch the video if you don't. Hell, watch the video even if you do!