Charities.............for all the work and support they provide, I have the utmost respect. Fund raising........without it, these charities are nothing.
However, some prick trying to make me feel guilty because I have said no to donating to their charity can kiss my *ss. When it comes to this sort of thing, I am a very private person as to what and where I support. What I don't need is some do-gooder to take it upon themselves to look down their nose at me if I politely decline to give any money to the charity they are peddling today.
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Jeeeeezzz Jerricho----for one minute there I thought you were inviting us all to donate to your bank balance ! --however, you have a serious point here.
Bit like yourself, whom I donate to and why is my business and for personal reasons usually associated with the cause concerned.
However, my local "large supermarket chain run by a dinosaur luddite from Yorkshire" has a habit of allowing groups to hang around the check outs and "fill your bags sir / madam? "--in exchange for ££'s in the bucket of course. Now I don't actually need anybody to fill a bag for me and I am not going to give just to conform--so we have had the odd "discussion" with those who felt that I should--including people in the queue behind me--but like yourself I don't see any reason to donate to a cause that I have no interest or belief in--simple as that.
Jerricho - a Twoonie says you are referring to the United Way. The way that work has latched onto this cause is unbelievable. It's almost cult-like the way we are bombarded with emails, voicemails, posters in the office etc, 'encouraging' us to participate.
I chose who I give my money to - I do not give my money to someone who pressurizes me into giving through guilt.
Edited to add - with my mother and grandfather and other family friends going through the pains of cancer, cancer charities are the only ones which receive money from me and large donations at that.
Don't get me started on the 'spare change?' zombies that litter the streets.
Completely agree with you there Jerricho - and don't forget all those doorsteppers, especially the ones that leave an envelope they call to collect when you're in the bath/just sat down to a meal.
I watched my dad die from cancer. But he died at home with our care, and that of the Macmillan Nurses.
They were wonderful, and if they are able to provide the support they gave to my family to others then they get my money every time.
In other words, it is my choice who I give my hard earned money to, and if someone collecting outside a supermarket for a charity I don't support gets wavy-lipped then tough.
The United Way realized that it had never received a donation from the city's most successful lawyer. So a United Way volunteer paid the lawyer a visit in his lavish office. The volunteer opened the meeting by saying, "Our research shows that even though your annual income is over two million dollars, you don't give a penny to charity. Wouldn't you like to give something back to your community through the United Way?"
The lawyer thinks for a minute and says, "First, did your research also show you that my mother is dying after a long, painful illness and she has huge medical bills that are far beyond her ability to pay?" Embarrassed, the United Way rep mumbles, "Uh... no, I didn't know that."
"Secondly," says the lawyer, "my brother, a disabled veteran, is blind and confined to a wheelchair and is unable to support his wife and six children." The stricken United Way rep begins to stammer an apology, but is cut off again.
"Thirdly, did your research also show you that my sister's husband died in a dreadful car accident, leaving her penniless with a huge mortgage and three children, one of whom is disabled and another has learning disabilities requiring an array of private tutors?"
The humiliated United Way rep, completely beaten, says, "I'm sorry, I had no idea." And the lawyer says, "So... if I didn't give any money to them, what in the hell makes you think I'd ever give any to you?"
Jerricho - a Twoonie says you are referring to the United Way
Actually CWL, that was one of the ones that did come to mind.............the intrusiveness of it at work actually borders on offensive. As I said, the difference these organisations can make to people's lives can't be measured. But sadly there are individuals out there who think "It's ultra cool to give a shit...........look at me, look at me! I care! Aren't I great. I appear to be doing more than anybody else. I'm better than you".
Now I must stop myself for a minute. Yes these people are doing things for others, and that's bloody great, let's not make any small issue of that. However, they don't have a clue what others privately contribute to the community and would like it kept that way.
I am always polite to these people in my refusal, as it is for a good cause (mostly). But try and make me feel guilty for it, that's just plain wrong.
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I believe these days, that tactic is described now as "Chugging" a combination of the words Charity and Mugging.
Where I used to work in London, what should be a relaxng stroll down the high street at lunchtime would become more like an osbtacle course trying to avoid all the charity people with their collection tins
What most don't realise is that all this fund raising has been subcontracted. There are professional companies out there coming up with campaigns and ways of contacting people in name of a charity, off course in exchange for an handsome profit margin.
I believe the term you used was "sh*t for brains" when you were clearly rumbled.
(Sorry, sorry, sorry...............must not be agressive. Must take pills..................deep breaths...............he's not worth it...............*sigh*..............)
Why can't you play nice now? That nice young man Flybywyre clearly wants to be your friend, and what did I tell you about friends? Just because he call you some names, doesn't mean he can't be a nice person.
Take that other nice young man Farrell. He's a boy a mother could be proud of. Perhaps you need to be more like him.